10 things that I will never be sorry for

 

 

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Recently, a colleague bumped into me and somehow my reaction to this was to think that if only I had thought to stand further out of the way, he wouldn't have bumped into me.I found myself saying sorry to someone about something that I shouldn't have been sorry for.

My irrational apology was basically saying, "Sorry for being in the way when I wasn't in the way." I began to question what else I was or had been sorry for, and made a decision to no longer be sorry for the following:

I'm not sorry for:

1. Who I am.

There's a reason why all of us are born as the people we are.

2. For not being a person that someone else wants me to be.

Nobody else can live my life, and there's nothing wrong with living life the way that I want to.

3. For not being perfect.

There's no such thing as perfect.

4. For having an opinion.

We're all allowed to form ideas based on our experiences.

5. For messing up.

Mistakes are inevitable and I have something to learn from them.

6. For loving someone.

My intention is to spread love. Sometimes I get it back and sometimes I don't. Regardless of the outcome, I won't miss out on an opportunity to love someone.

7. For feeling.

Feelings remind me that I am alive.

8. For asking someone to do something.

The worst thing that they can say is no.

9. For forgetting sometimes.

All of us forget, what can we do?

10. For failing or falling.

Both of these actions re-route our journeys and we often end up having acquired more knowledge and wisdom than we had previously thought.

10 reasons to choose love

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I used to spend so much time searching for love in other people and material things. Because of this, I noticed that I attracted people who were desperate for love and attention as I, too, was desperate for it.

One day, I switched on the TV to find Deepak Chopra on the OWN network. He was advising a young lady who said that she had trouble finding love. He told her to become love and to choose love so that she could authentically attract it.

I decided to incorporate this into my life, particularly my yoga practice. Every three months, I do a thirty-day hot yoga challenge. This time I decided to choose love for thirty days.

Here are 10 reasons why I chose and continue to choose love:

1. I choose love because love is the most powerful energy in the universe.

2. I choose love because now, more than ever, it’s important to choose love.

3. I choose love because when love is gone, nothing remains.

4. I choose love because we are all worthy of love of it.

5. I choose love because love heals.

6. I choose love because love soothes.

7. I choose love because love is the height of appreciation.

8. I choose love because love is real.

9. I choose love because love is the foundation of every healthy relationship.

10. I choose love because love is for all.

3 reasons that you might be attracting negative people into your life

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Sometimes in our lives, we have to review our behaviour and the behaviour of the people in our lives.


It can often happen by force which may come in the form of betrayal or mistrust. Or, it may come at a time in our lives when we feel incomplete or feel as though we are missing genuine connections with people in our lives.


I am a firm-believer in detoxing. Detoxing your mind, body and soul. And, sometimes letting go of friendships, things and people that do you harm. Once we detox, however, it is important to think about how and why we attracted a person or situation to begin with.


It could've been one of the following:


1. You, yourself, have a tendency to be negative.


I had a client who had fallen into the pattern of being negative, which is normal. I noticed that she would project her negativity onto others and therefore, she would attract more negativity. I told her, and now I am telling you, that it is important to be aware of your own habits as we often attract similar behaviour as we have become used to it. She had no idea that she had created this pattern. This was two years ago and now she is in a happier place and surrounded by more positive and influential people. When I keep up with her, she is so grateful for that advice that I gave her as she had no idea. Some of you may have no idea, so pay attention to the people around you.


2. Don't base friendships on gossip and negative speech.


This is something that I have just learnt, again! During the winter, I found myself frustrated with a job that I decided to leave and during that frustration, I had become friends with another colleague. We spent a lot of our time speaking badly about that place and our circumstances. This lead to a foundation of friendship that was built upon negativity. Just like with all relationships, they need to have a foundation of truth, love and compassion - not on hateful or disappointment speech. Friendships like this don't survive. It would be different if we were supporting each other through a difficult time by affirming each other and being hopeful of the future; however, we spent a lot of time dwelling on what was being done to us.


3. Unclear boundaries


Boundaries are so important, very important. I can't re-iterate this enough. I like to use the analogy of when someone comes into your house, they ring the intercom, then they go through a gate/door then another door to get into your house/ apartment, right? This should be the same for your life. When you meet someone, they shouldn't be able to know everything about you and be able to be called a friend in an instant. As much as there are awesome and uplifting people, there are negative people who can bring you down too. Take your time with new acquaintances and start to notice if the person is worth trusting and worth having as a friend.We often let people into our lives too quickly to realize who they were until they are gone. Actively realize who you are letting into your life by taking it slowly and don't be afraid to see if someone isn't ideal for you.

10 Social Media tips from an expert

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10 Social Media tips from an expert

 

1. Get Personal

 

The  public like to know the person behind the blog/brand. The rise in popularity of bloggers proves this as we like to know who they are, what they do and if he/she is similar to us; do they read the same books, watch the same Netflix series, brunch at the same spot every Sunday etc.

There is so much competition between brands nowadays that getting personal is your unique quality they can’t replicate. Show your audience on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Snapchat etc who you are: your age, your background, your dreams, your motivations and more importantly what your brand/blog means to you. Give them an added reason to follow you other than your amazing talents of course!

 

2. Images and Videos Daily

 

According tobufferapp.com tweets with images receives more than 150% more retweets than tweets with just words. This can also be said for Facebook, where posts with images see 2.3 times more engagement than posts with just written word. As the old saying goes; ‘a picture paints a thousand words’.

 


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This post was created for Race Around Ireland, a cycling race in Ireland, and as you can see this image reached almost 15,000 people, this is compared to around 2,000 people reached in just written posts.


A lot of us scroll through Facebook, Twitter etc with only five minutes to spend on social media, images allow you to get your message across quickly and in a way that appeals to the masses. The images don’t have to be unique every day; they can be funny memes, old photos (throwback Thursday), photos of yourself, your pet etc. The sky is the limit, just make it interesting.

 

3. Have varied content

 

When I began working with various companies in Ireland most were just posting information, some photos and rarely some videos. Coming from a radio background I really wanted to introduce podcasts into the mix. I began working with Race Around Ireland’s (Europes toughest cycling challenge) founder Alan Heary on short and concise podcasts that would be informative, new and easy to listen to for the cyclists involved. This became a weekly activity leading up to the race and one that all racers said proved invaluable to them.

Podcasts are extremely popular now, particularly in America and it is very easy to do. Once you have a recording device- Iphone, in my case a H1 Zoom recorder or any other device you can think of, a FREE soundcloud account, yes free, Audacity is a free editing software, so now you are already half way there.

 

Podcasts aside, written posts and images must be varied also. No one wants to be shown promotional material every day, we want funny videos, cute puppies, inspirational quotes, or is that just me? One rule of thumb is to ensure only 30% of your posts are promotional, yes we need to promote our brand and make some money, but we must also increase our following and reach among the masses. You can upload personal photos, write funny stories, tell us what you did last weekend, of course funny memes, and retweet/share others funny posts also (always credit the original author). There are so many apps now that help you create collages, memes and unique content (canva, instacollage, mematic).

 

 

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This is one I created when I worked for AR VR Innovate event in Dublin. Each speaker I created a collage of their photo, name, company and title of presentation. Audiences are informed without even reading the information in the tweet.

 

A social media content calendar is a tool that can be used to help content creation and to keep you on track. Days like Mother’s Day, National Best Friend’s Day, International Human Rights Day are just some that can help you create content and use hash tags to trend online and reach a wider audience.

 

4. Consistency is key

 

Most millennial nowadays when looking at brands will look at the brands social media pages, and if they aren’t up to date, relevant and ‘cool’ then they will rethink their purchase.

Your website can be amazing, but you need your social media pages to reflect this also.

Daily posts are essential; you can schedule your tweets and posts on Hootsuite for $19 per month, which hosts up to 10 social media accounts. You can also schedule posts free on Facebook.

You should be consistent with your posts if you have themed posts- on Tuesday’s you do a Tuesday Shoesday for example, or on Friday’s you do a meet a member of the team post. If you retweet/share posts a lot then time and day isn’t as important but uniformity for some posts is a must and this will generate repeat engagement with your audience. With the podcasts we created on Race Around Ireland, we posted them every Friday and they were always met with huge reach and they became a must for the cyclists training at weekends.

 

5. Hashtags

 

Organic growth on Twitter and Instagram is by majority done via hashtags. One thing that has worked for me is logging on to Twitter and looking at what hashtags are trending and using them in my tweets. The usual ones that come up are throw back Thursday, Monday motivations, Flashback Friday etc. As of writing this today Saturday June 24th #gdocexpo is trending as number 2, the game developers of color expo is a perfect example of how events can trend on twitter and how the event can reach a huge audience. To market on this hashtag for example you could talk about games you’ve played (xbox, playstation etc), if of course it is relevant and use the #gdocexpo. Always try commercialise on what is trending if you have something that is relevant to add. A lot of brands capitalize on trends such as the Super bowl, the VMA’s, The presidential election (is is still a touchy subject), add photos, your opinions, memes, etc and use the trending hashtag to get noticed. Depending on the hashtag the content should be relevant, but sometimes the non relevant tweets are the ones who are funnier and gain more reach.

 

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Another thing I do is research days that are coming up- National Puppy Day, National Donut Day, Mother’s Day ,Pride weekend, etc, this allows me to get on board the hashtag for that day with cute content (puppies), showing love and support to a cause, and showing how important it is to me and my brand.

 

 

I worked on two large events in Dublin and both trended on Twitter, both becoming the number 2 trend. This was because I ensured the #arvrinnovate (our event hashtag) was used months prior to the event, during the event, and used by all speakers and delegates attending the event. Exposure to the hashtag will ensure the public know it is necessary to use. For brands you must create a unique hashtag for your brand, one that will become immediately recognizable for your audience. Ensure no one else has it or is associated with it of course. This goes for both Instagram and Twitter. Instagram you can search the most popular hashtags, images and videos and view their content and adapt it for your posts.

 

6. It’s called Social Media because it is social

 

You must engage with your audience daily, respond to their tweets, answer their Facebook questions, regard their Instagram photos etc. Everybody loves recognition, and your fans will adore you if you retweet them or mention them online. Your audience wants to interact with you, and this builds loyalty and friendship. Always look up your brand/blog name on all social media sites and if people mention/tag you, you should mention them back, say hi, thank them for their support, compliment their photo, retweet the content (giving them credit of course), and build a relationship with them. Talking for myself but I love when brands, celebrities, bloggers like my post or amazingly mention me, it gives me a little buzz inside and makes me want to tweet more, upload more photos and gain their attention again. It also makes brands seem more human and not just a person behind a computer but someone who cares. The use of retweets can not only build a relationship but gain a larger audience for you too (see below).

At the IAB Ireland event, I retweeted many delegate tweets thus giving them recognition, broadening our content and getting another use of our hashtag, which helped us trend.

 

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 7. Relate to others

 

Like I said earlier about getting personal makes you more relatable to your audience, it is also necessary to relate to other brands, people, groups that share your vision and ethos. You should follow similar brands (competition also), bloggers/influencers with similar visions, people that inspire you etc. An example would be for a wellness blogger- you can follow whole foods, The Dalai Lama, Tony Robbins, The Happier podcast, meditation centers etc. If you connect with brands and people that represent your values you gain a wider audience, more reach from retweets, mentions, and show more of your personality. Connecting with similar brands/people will also open the door for collaborations (money), which will help you develop your brand and help you increase followers and reach a mass audience.

 

8. The connection between Social Media platforms

 

First it was Facebook, then Twitter, then Instagram and now everyone is crazy for Snapchat. Know where your audience is and reach them on different platforms. Every few month’s new ways of reaching your audience are created; you must learn these techniques and optimize them for your brand.

You can post on Instagram for example and allow this post to be shared on Facebook and Twitter also, leading followers on other platforms to come to your Instagram to view the image.

It is always good to note that followers/fans on Facebook may be completely different to ones who follow you on Snapchat,you must analyze the followers on each and tailor your content for each platform if necessary.

All social media platforms are linkable and some are dependent on each other for success, once you have a presence on the most popular ones then you have created a pathway for success.

 

9. Competition

 

You must watch your competition- follow them, view their posts, when they post, what they post, their type of followers, their success etc and analyze their strategy and how you can adapt it for your brand. As a child we learn from our parents, this is exactly the same for business, except maybe they don’t give us candy or praise from looking at their every move lol.

 

A lot of new brands need competitive analysis to create their strategy, but also existing brands learn from others in the market and continually learn. If you are a blogger, what other blogger did you aspire to be like? What key tools did they have that made them successful?

Keeping it to social media, Snapchat with its instant images and videos became a huge hit, and soon followed Instagram with their instant images and videos, closely followed by Facebook.

Look at what works for them, ADAPT it for you and hopefully learn from their mistakes and develop from their success.

 

10. Analyze, analyze, analyze

 

You may have a hugely successful brand/blog but in order to continue success you must consistently analyze what you do and be pro active about what works and how you can change what doesn’t work.

Analyze weekly what posts had the most reach and why, is there a certain time in the day that helps gain more audience reach, is there a certain topic that is more popular than others? Again as research shows images and videos are more popular than just written word.

If you see that posting in the AM only gets you a reach of 100 people, but posting after work at 6PM gets you 1000 people then you know when to post. It sounds simple but it’s hugely effective and one that many people seem to miss out on.

On Facebook you can view your statistics on your page via the insights button; this will tell you your daily, weekly, monthly reach and your post engagements.

 

 

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You can also view the reach of each tweet on Twitter, but Instagram will only show you likes and views. On the most basic level you can analyze weekly the reach of your posts and see what performs better and again analyze competitors weekly and adapt to what is successful for them.

Success does not continue without growth and development, which in turn won’t happen without analysis of success and failures.

 


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Go forth and conquer the world of social media, I know you can do it! 

 

About the author: 

Hi I’m Lisa, 28, Irish and living in New York City :)

I moved to New York in September 2016, after falling in love with the city in the summer of 2014.

My aim in moving over was to expand my horizons personally and professionally. I worked in events for six years in Ireland, and more recently worked freelance for various companies doing social media, public relations and communications. I worked for Race Around Ireland, Europe’s toughest cycling race, The Wicklow 200, a countryside fun race, Gymnastics Ireland, and before you ask, no I am not sporty. I can’t even do a summersault. I have also worked on various events doing social media; including the international augmented and virtual reality conference; AR VR Innovate, and the Irish internet advertising board connect. Both events trended as number two in Ireland on Twitter, and generated a whopping 5,000 tweets between them (my poor fingers).

My New York career has been in sales at an Irish hotel brand, working on events and marketing for both restaurants and bars, including working on their social media platforms.

 

Personally I love positive thoughts, cupcakes and frozen margaritas, most of the time in that order, but not always. I always believe in aiming for the stars and working hard towards your dreams (I am in New York, so it definitely works). For those of you who may not have visited Ireland yet, it is an amazing place and you must go, think less leprechauns,  more like unmet friends, beautiful scenery and a culture that will make you all want to be Irish

5 tips to help you get back to working out.

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As a health coach, I completely understand falling out of workout routines, as well as diets. Getting back into regimens can feel overwhelming as deep down we all fear failing.

 

Let's focus on exercise this week. There are tips that can help you get back into a workout regime without anxiety and fear that you fall back into not working out again.

 

1. Be honest with yourself.

 

Truthfully, I don't like the gym and I just won't go to it. But I exercise in other ways. It took me a while to realize that I didn't like the gym and when I did, I found other ways to exercise that were fun to me. There is no point in forcing yourself to do something that you really dislike doing.

 

2. Find a fun exercise for you.

 

Which brings me to my second point, life is meant to be fun- including exercise. I love yoga; however, I found myself bored and decided to switch up a few days with Pilates. We live in a world of so many exercises and workouts, find one that you can enjoy and don't limit yourself, enjoy and explore!

 

3. Let go of needing to be perfect on your first day.

 

Working out is a journey and, just like with other journeys, we start off wanting to be perfect. The problem with this is that nothing is perfect and once you discover that, you can start to enjoy your workout as you decide to no longer judge and limit yourself. We all have our 'First-days' or 'First-days back', they have to happen in order for us to improve and get stronger.

 

4. Aim for 3-4 times a week.

 

Sometimes guilt leads us to overestimate how much we should be working out. However, when we overestimate our workout routines, we tend to fall behind because the routine becomes this big dramatic thing that we need to conquer, often leading to mental defeat. Help yourself get back in the game by easing into your routine a few days a week and slowly add a day after a month. You'll find that it will be so natural that you won't need to force yourself to workout overtime, it will happen naturally.

 

5. Support yourself.

 

I had a client that had developed a nasty way of speaking to herself to get back into working out. She would call herself nasty names in a way to force herself to exercise. Together, we broke her of this pattern and she has learnt to support herself. Which has been more beneficial. Please speak to yourselves with love and support, it cultivates positive energy and anything that you do with positivity already becomes more fun.

 

5 quotes to inspire and motivate you.

I am in love with quotes. When I started practicing yoga, I would practice at a yoga studio that ended with yoga quotes and I would carry those quotes with me.

 

So, in honour of how much I love quotes, I would like to share 5 quotes that have helped me through difficulties:

 

1. 'Behind rejection is God's protection and redirection' Anon

 

It's so true. The reason why it's true is if things are not working in a relationship, work venture or any other situation- feeling like the effort that put forward is a waste, that's because it is. If things are meant to be, they will be. If someone leaves you, make space for someone who wants to be with you. If you get fired, get prepared for a job that is eager to hire you. It will happen.

 

2.' Why should I be unhappy? All of my being is in full bloom' Rumi

 

This quote refers to gratitude. Sometimes we dwell on things that aren't going right. I found myself recently fixated on needing to make a certain amount of money and wasn't looking at the blessings in my life.Whatever it may be in your life, look at what is going well! You're alive, you can breathe! Whatever is working for you, let it work with you to make the most of today!

 

3. 'Just do right' Maya Angelou

 

In an episode of Oprah's Masterclass, she explained this quote by saying that being a good person provides you protection and people's love- which is so true. When we are good and kind-hearted people, we feel good about what we are doing in this world and we tend to treat everything that we do with more care and we hold ourselves up better. Keep righteousness in your heart and let it elevate your moral compass and value as a human being.

 

4. 'Your life is a message to the world. Write something inspiring' Beyoncé

 

We forget sometimes that our lives are meant to be lived for good and for/with purpose. We have been given the gift of life to use it to our advantage and, I believe, to leave this world with a print of all things good that we are able to see offer. Whether it is through art, science, writing or speech, spread your inspirational message everyday that you can.

 

5. 'Refuse to fail' Iyanla VanZant.

 

Inside all of us, there is determination. It's survival. If you are familiar with chakras, it's the first chakra/ the root chakra. We have a tendency to take survival for granted as our needs for survival have changed. Our ancestors form of survival was food, water and light. It may still be like that for some; however, for most of us who are grateful to have all these essentials already, it's time to elevate our idea of failure. Refusing to fail might mean not allowing people to get the best of us with nasty comments, it might mean getting out of credit card debt or it might mean getting out of bed after a terrible break-up. But please please please, 'Refuse to fail'

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4 tips to ease your financial worries

I don't know about you but sometimes budgeting can be a real pain. It's so easy to feel like you are losing control of where your money is going. Which is understandable, as we pay a lot of taxes and living- particularly in cites- can be expensive.


Here are some tips that have been passed onto me that I would like to share with you:


1. Limit the amount of coffees/teas that you buy in a week.


Sometimes, numbers can overwhelm us. For example, when we save up for a trip over a few months, we get overwhelmed by a big number. However, if you replace an item and don't think about the money, you will be surprised by how much money you are able to save. A cup of coffee is approximately $3-$4, having one everyday is $21-28 a week, right? How about reducing it to once and saving $18-$24 a week. Which, could save you $1344. Thus could cover transit for your year.


2. Cool your own food.


Following the same principles as limiting your coffees and teas, limit the amount of times that you eat out- that includes take out. A $10 five-times a day can lead to $2400 a year. Which could pay your health insurance or other bills that seem exorbitantly expensive.


3. Throw house and park parties.


Truth be told, going out and hanging at bars and clubs can be expensive. If you go out and spend $50 five-times-a-week on restaurants, bars and clubs, it could save you almost $10 000 annually to throw parties where you bring your own drinks and you still get to hang out with your friends. Remember, a simple $12 drink can turn into a night of $50. When you're socializing, it's rarely ever just one drink, so spend quality time with friends while you save money.


4. Use coupons and deals.

I am a huge Wholefoods fan; however, it can be expensive to shop there. In fact, a friend of mine referred to it as WholePaychecks. Eating healthily can be way more expensive, so it is important to look out for saves and coupons that can save you $1 or more per item. Imagine! $1 off an item from 20 items could save you $20 every time you shop.

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12 reasons to smile everyday

As Mother Teresa said, "Peace begins with a smile." I came up with daily reminders that helped me maintain my smile and peace, even during difficult times.

 

1. I smile because I've been blessed with today, and I can make the most of it.

2. I smile because there's no one else like me alive.

3. I smile because I'm choosing to enjoy my life regardless of the obstacles I will face.

4. I smile because I choose to wear my experience as wisdom, not baggage.

5. I smile because the Sun and the Moon are smiling back at me.

6. I smile because I'm aware of the negative and positive aspects of my life; however, I am choosing to focus on what is going well in my life.

7. I smile because I have hope.

8. I smile because today is the best day of my life, and there will be many more on the way.

9. I smile because I live in a world of endless possibilities.

10. I smile because I have faith that whatever is meant to be will be.

11. I smile because I have been given this life for me to enjoy.

12. I smile because even though people come in and out of my life, I will never be alone.

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10 songs to uplift your spirit.

I am so grateful for the gift of music. Music helps us celebrate, accomplish and survive. 

Here is a playlist of some songs to inspire, uplift and survive. Highlighting some powerful lyrics

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1. Wide awake by Katy Perry.

Helped me through a tough break-up. With lyrics like, 'God knows that I tried seeing the bright side, I'm not blind anymore'

 

2. I was here by Beyonce.

Reminds me why I am alive. 

'I will live my life so everyone knows I was here'- this lyrics give me life.

 

3. Skyscraper by Demi Lovato

Has taught me that I can rise in the darkest time. 

'You can take everything I have , you can break everything I am. Like I'm made of glass, like I'm made of paper... I will keep rising from the ground like a skyscraper. 

So moving and inspiring!

 

4. Part of me by Katy Perry.

One of my favourite songs, the lyrics speak for themselves.

'This is the part of me that you're never gonna ever take away from me'

 

5. Stronger by Kanye West

We all possess strength, why not embrace it?

'That that that that that don't kill me can only make me stronger'

Yes!

 

6. Fighter by Christina Aguilera

Sometimes it's great to embrace the fighter within you. 

'Thanks for making me a fighter'- every challenge is towards something.

 

7.  Survivor by Destiny's Child

How can anyone not like this song? 

'I'm a survivor, I'm not gonna give up, I'm not gonna stop. I will work harder.' If you don't believe, who else will?

 

8. Strength, courage and wisdom by India.Arie

She sings affirmations that are so powerful.

'It's always been inside of me' - she's talking about strength. 

 

9. Faith by George Michael

A sexy and fabulous song that unleashes inner supermodel within all of us. In my mind, he is talking about having faith about anything, not just sex.

'I gotta have faith'

 

10. Stronger (What doesn't kill you) by Kelly Clarkson.

The perfect workout song.

'Baby you don't know me 'cause you're dead wrong'- your haters are dead wrong about you. Trust me!

5 helpful tips for meditation

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Throughout my life, meditation has always been there. You might be thinking, obviously, right? However, what I mean is that, there had always been someone in my life who was trying to get me to meditate.

 

My aunt used to recommend it to me while I was writing my final exams of high school. So, I tried it. And then never did it again for the next 7 years. Although, I did yoga very consistently, I refrained from meditation. *Yoga and meditation are not the same.Yoga is recommended to be supplemented by it. However, asana (postures) and meditation are separate.

 

I finally decided to give meditation a go again when I had developed stress knots in my shoulders and jaws from tension. A fellow teacher recommended that it would help ease it. 

 

So, I began. I began with merely 2 minutes a day- which felt so long. However, three years later, my 20 minute morning meditations feel like a breeze. 

 

This is how I developed a solid meditation practice:

 

1. Patience with my mind.

 

Meditation teaches you patience. If you can't be patient with your mind, you will get frustrated during your meditation and it will do the opposite affect. Your mind is meant to think, it will have to adjust to meditation so give it time.

 

2. Find a comfortable position. 

 

Meditation is more difficult when your body is uncomfortable. Many recommend sitting upright; however, I say as long as your back is straight, it's okay. Whether you are lying down or sitting up, a straight spines allows for chakra alignment and optimizes your meditation experience.

 

 

3. Start with short meditations.

 

As I mentioned before, I began with short meditations. This is so that your mind can adapt. Just like with running, your first day of training, you wouldn't run a mile. Meditation is also training, you are training your mind. In order to build a daily meditation, start with a few minutes a day.

 

4. Use YouTube for meditations.

 

YouTube is great for finding meditations. I recommend searching YouTube to find meditations that will help you through whatever you are going through. For example, if you are feeling anxious, search Meditations for anxiety.

 

5. You can always start again tomorrow

 

We have a tendency to do our best, which is great; however, when you begin meditation, you might not feel great as you still have to train your mind. You might feel as though you are disrupted a lot and, that is okay. Just know that tomorrow is another day for meditation and you don't have to NOT think about anything else to meditate. It's about bringing your mind back to where you are. Overtime, it will happen naturally. But, BE PATIENT.

3 Ayurvedic tips to cure digestive ailments

Throughout my childhood and early twenties, I had stomache problems. I had severe bloating, gas and sometimes acid reflux. While I was taking my health coach studies at The Institute for Integrative Nutrition, I was introduced to Ayurveda. 

As a result, I ended up seeing an Ayurvedic doctor. She recommended that I do the following, and my stomache issues were solved:

1. Eat Goat Milk yoghurt.

If you are familiar with Ayurveda, you know that it is based on your main constitution. Either you are Pitta, Kapha or Vatta. (Stay tuned next week as we explain Ayurveda to you.)My predominant constitution is Pitta, which is fire and am prone to digestive issues. She recommended that I lay off of lactose, which I had already discovered, and stick to goat milk. The probiotics in yoghurt are great for creating balance in the digestive tract. 

2. Start off the day with lemon or ginger tea. 

This is a habit that a lot of people have been have been accustomed to. Drinking warm water with lemon or ginger in the morning wakes up your metabolism and the acids in your stomache. It is recommended to be done everyday first thing in the morning, to ease your stomache into the digestion that is about to happen throughout the day.

3. Decrease your stress through meditation.

Stress is negative energy and, negative energy has an effect on everything. Including your stomache. Research has shown that your digestive tract has a nervous system of its own and is sensitive to stress, that is why we increase or lose our appetite when we are stressed. The most effective and natural way to decrease stress is through meditation. (Stay tuned for meditations from BiologiqueLife, coming soon)

How to take care of oily skin

The last article that we published on skincare, was about dealing with dry skin. 

This week, we reveal ways to take care of oily skin.

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Seborrhea is the clinical term for excessively oily skin. Acne is usually a result of oily skin, with the combination of lack of sufficient skincare and hygiene. 

Many people have acne and it is said to be one of the worst skin conditions as it becomes almost viral and, can infect most of your face once you start developing it because bacteria spreads rapidly. 

 

If you have acne and oily skin, please apply these skin habits to your skin and watch your skin decrease the amount of oil it has, clear up and glow in 28 days. (Remember, that skin cells replenish in a month.)

 

 

1. Drink more water

I often find myself repeating this over and over; however, it is true. As a skin specialist, I recommend drinking more water as, oily skin in most cases- unless you have an autoimmune skin disorder- is caused by having dry skin. It sounds crazy, I know. However, if your skin has been dry for a long period of time, it will become oily as a way for your skin cells to stay moisturized. Drinking at least 1.5 litres of water a day will help you internally re-hydrate the cells of your skin, resulting in less production of oil on your skin.

 

2. Use products that contain Tea Tree oil. 

Tea Tree oil has been used for centuries to treat skin conditions, particularly acne-prone skin. What is so great about Tea Tree oil, also known as  Melaleuca alternifolia, is that it is anti-viral and anti-bacterial. It is able to counteract acne because acne is a bacteria that grows on your skin and spreads rapidly. A healthy clean diet and water helps, however, bacteria needs an anti-bacterial to decrease it's growth. Tea Tree oil is great because it is a natural oil that is not extreme, like some of these other acne medications. 

 

3. Exercise and eat less sugar and oily foods.

The body is a beautiful and smart machine. What you put into it, you will get back. If you have oily skin, I recommend laying off of sugary drinks, unhealthy snacks and foods with saturated fats. Many studies have directly linked acne to excess sugar and dairy consumption. In addition, it is important to exercise for clear skin because as you exercise, you flush out excess toxins and oils that can create skin problems.

 

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Lets celebrate life by being good to us

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Let's celebrate life by being good to us.                                                                                         By waking up grateful at the mere fact that you have learnt at least one more thing than you knew yesterday.

Let's celebrate life by being good to us.
By realizing that your perception of your day and life have an affect on the progression. For, the more we focus on the things that aren't there, we forget those that are.

Let's celebrate life by being good to us. 
By accepting that when someone is unkind to you, they are doing you a favour. You have the ability to strengthen, learn and grow- what a blessing!

Let's celebrate life by being good to us. 
By forgiving a situation that hurt you, you probably won't be hurt that way again. So why dwell on the hurting? When you have the perfect time to heal what has been hurt.

Let's celebrate life by being good to us.                                                                                       No one else has your name, your face and your body. Your skin is too beautiful to wear uncomfortably.

Let's celebrate life by being good to us.                                                                                         As we are our own Best Friends. who can treat you better than the person you spend the most time with? Yourself.

Boost your self-esteem with these 7 tips.

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In the past year I've really learned what it means to have self-worth. I am finding out more and more that when you can appreciate yourself it is a true blessing.

I thought that I would share a few ways that helped me raise my self-esteem:

1. Learn to say "no."

This way, when you say yes it's for things that are meaningful. When you learn to say no to things and people, it helps you prioritize and remember what's in your best interest. You also begin to like and appreciate yourself for having your own back. The reality is that only you can have your back because, you're the only person who can know what you truly want.

2. Forgive yourself!

The only way to move beyond the past is to let go of it. We all make mistakes, but holding on to them, or telling yourself how badly you've done won't help you achieve anything positive in your life. Let go of the judgment and nasty names that you've called yourself, and move forward. 

3. Limit your apologies only for when you hurt people.

Only say sorry when you've hurt someone. When you continuously say sorry for making mistakes, you're basically apologizing for living. Everyone makes mistakes in life — that's a guarantee. It's nothing to be apologetic about. It also makes your apology to someone you've hurt more meaningful and special because you aren't throwing around the word a lot.

4. Respect yourself.

When you respect yourself, the attitude seeps into to all areas of your life. It means that what you put in your mouth, what you tell yourself and what you do all have healthy benefits to you and your body. Feeling guilty and ashamed isn't a form of respect. So steer away from things that make you feel that way. Put things in your body and mind that make you feel good about yourself and proud of your decisions.

5. Set up clear boundaries for people in your life.

People treat you how you allow them to treat you. If you allow chaos and drama into your life, that's what you'll get. If you allow happiness and joy into your life, you'll get that instead! You deserve to be respected, and only you can initiate this by telling yourself and others what you do and don't appreciate in your life.

6. Surround yourself with people who are positive influences.

People who are negative tend to be a drag to be around. It can be exhausting to deal with people that see the worst in everything. One of the great things about life is that you can decide who you want to be in your life. You deserve people in your life who will lift you up with positivity, and you deserve to lift others up with positivity, too.

7. Smile at yourself in the mirror.

If you want to be mean to yourself, then by all means, go ahead and wish you could be better-looking, call yourself hurtful names and tell yourself that you're unworthy of love. However, if you want to be kind to yourself, start by smiling. Just smile at yourself and you will begin a positive and healthy relationship with yourself.

How to take care of dry skin.

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As a skin specialist, I feel it is my duty to spread the real facts about skincare because there are so many misconceptions going around regarding what s good and bad for our skin. 

This is week one of: How to take care of your skin. Catering to the 3 different skin types: dry, oily and acne-prone skin.

This week, we focus on dry skin. Which, I suffer from. Chronic conditions that stem from dry skin are eczema, rosacea and some forms of skin dermatitis. 

If you have dry skin, please apply the following rules to your skin and you will see a difference in your skin in 28 days, guaranteed! ( It takes 28 days for your skin's cells to replenish. So, please be wary of products that tell you otherwise.)

 

1. Drink more water

Our skin is the body's biggest organ, consuming the most water from your consumption. You can often tell that you are dehydrated by paying attention to your skin, particularly around your lips and your lips. If they are chronically dry, it could mean that you are dehydrated. It is recommended that you drink 1.5 liters of water a day, more if you are active.

 

*Read our article on how to spruce up your water for fun water ideas.

 

2. Avoid conventional soaps and creams.

Just like with anything, in skincare you get what you pay for. I had a client who used Johnson's and Johnson's on her skin and was wondering why she had problematic skin. I explained to her that these cheap products are mostly water and preservatives so, how can you expect it to heal your skin? Our skin is a very simple organ, it will tell you plain and clear what it needs and will tell you f what you're using isn't working. Listen to your skin and fork out an extra $10- $20 for a product that will nourish it, not dry it out.

 

3. Use oils instead of creams.

I highly recommend using oils on your face as opposed to creams. There has been a recent myth that oil blocks skin and cream allows skin to breathe. This is completely untrue. Oils, particularly botanical oils- made from plants- blend in with your skin's cells easier than synthetics so you are able to absorb more moisture and nutrients from them. Moreover, oils usually need less preservatives in them because they are oil- based and oils have a longer shelf-life than creams that are water-based.

 

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4 ways to work with The Universe

I had always believed that I had to be in control of everything in my life. It sounds impossible when put into words, but that's how I used to live my life until recently.

A few years ago, a few things were falling out of place and I had no idea what to do. I left one job to escape a problematic situation and started another job only to find myself facing an exaggeration of the same problem. I was in a relationship that felt like we were at war with one another because both of us wanted to be in control, and I had left a living situation with friends to live with a stranger in an arrangement filled with drama and turmoil.

It sounds clichéd, but one day I gave in. I found myself exhausted from trying to control everything when I was clearly unable to. This is what happened when I did decide to let go and let things take their course:

1. I stopped living in "when" and started living in "now."

I used to always say that I would be content when things would go my way. When I lose that weight or When I get that job or When I get that raise. I learned that living with expectance was not allowing me to appreciate the moment because I constantly wanted more. This created a cycle of my being unable to appreciate anything I had because I was so focused on wanting things to be the way that I wanted them to be.

Once I let go of the desire to have everything my way, I freed myself. I stopped driving myself crazy with wanting things to be different.

2. I started appreciating people.

When I let go of wanting people to respond or think the way that I had expected them to, it allowed me to appreciate the positive aspect of how diverse and unique we all are. People are allowed to be who they are. People will do things they want to; not how I want them to.

3. I learned a lesson from Nature.

The weather changes for a reason. It won't always be sunny; sometimes it will rain and if I love the sunshine as much as I do, I can appreciate the rain. It's helping me appreciate the sunshine because it reminds me that the Sun won't always be around. Just like life, there are some situations that may seem uncomfortable—sometimes even painful. However, these situations help us appreciate the situations that are joyful. When the joyful times come around, I remember when it wasn't joyful, which helps me appreciate it more.

4. I cried for a day and then got up the next day.

It was only natural for me to be sad or emotional when things weren't going my way; however, emotions don't lead to success—progressive actions do. I sobbed like a toddler who'd had a toy taken away from her, but then I got up and focused my energy on how to deal with the situation. I made a decision to take action because my emotions wouldn't get me as far as my actions would

4 self-affirmations to self-love.

I am a firm-believer in loving yourself. As a society, we used to be afraid to give ourselves praise and appreciation. However, I am learning that the best relationship that we have is with ourselves. Because we spend the most time with ourselves. 

 

Also, if we don't love ourselves, we put pressure on other people to do so. And, if we don't love ourselves, who will? It is important to affirm yourself a few times a day so that when other people don't need, you can reassure yourself. 

 

Here are some affirmations to tell yourself daily:

 

1. You are enough

 

The first time that I heard this affirmation, I was in a yoga class. I had just spent the day worrying about money and wasn't feeling great about myself. I felt helpless. As I heard these words, I thought about ny body, my mind and my breathe- all working together to keep me alive. I decided at that moment that I may not be rich but I am certainly wealthy. I have a healthy body, healthy mind and I can take a breath in and out. I am enough. 

 

2. Elevate yourself.

 

The truth is that the world can bring us down sometimes. We all feel like we're struggling sometimes and feel inadequate but it is important to step out of a negative mindset and elevate yourself. Know that there will be better and what you are going through is temporary and everything passes- no matter how bad it seems. So elevate yourself above the situation by remembering that there is always a way out, whether it is physical or mental.

 

3. I choose things and people that serve me.

 

For some reason, we feel like we have to suffer and completely give ourselves in relationships and jobs. I do partially agree with this; however, if that job or person you are in a relationship hasn't made you feel respected or happy in a while, feel free to leave that chapter of your life behind you. People and jobs are irreplaceable, yes. However, there is no point in being surrounded by negativity.

 

4. I forgive myself.

 

Yes, forgive yourself! Forgive yourself for when you told your Mother that you hated her. Forgive yourself for being mean to Nancy in the fifth grade. Forgive yourself for getting so drunk that you threw up when you were 21. Forgive yourself for drunkenly texting your unrequited love 6 times a night. Forgive yourself for everything that brings you any amount of guilt. Because guilt only brings you down. Forgive yourself because you didn't know better and next time, you will do better.

15 reasons to forgive

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Every three months, I take a yoga challenge. I practice hot yoga for thirty consecutive days and I also give myself thirty reasons to forgive.

 

Here are fifteen of my favourite from my last challenge:

 

1. I forgive because holding onto judgements about myself and others only shackles my mind and soul to negativity.

 

2. I forgive because I want to remember more than what has been done wrong to me.

 

3. I forgive because we are all humans. Counting what is wrong with others will only bring me down, how long can I keep fighting for?

 

4. I forgive because I am not a victim. Anything that has been done to me was not under my control.

 

5. I forgive because I will not allow negative people and negative situations to have a hold over my life.

 

6. I forgive because today is too beautiful to be spent judging and scrutinizing people around me.

 

7. I forgive because if I don't move past offense, I will drive myself crazy.

 

8. I forgive because I don't expect people to be kind, I merely appreciate those who are. The only way that I can appreciate those who are kind, is by forgiving those who are unkind.

 

9. I forgive because what has happened, has happened. It is time to let it go.

 

10. I forgive because in this imperfect human body I am in no state to hold anything against anyone.

 

11. I forgive because I can't expect others to live by my expectations.

 

12. I forgive because I can't re-write the past and I don't want to.

 

13. I forgive because my sense of peace is not worth sacrificing over something that happened in the past.

 

14. I forgive because I want to wish others well- including those who have hurt me.

 

15. I forgive because I want to have hope. Hope is not obtained by holding onto what has gone wrong

To my high school bullies, this is why I forgive you.

I  hated school. I absolutely hated it. I hated getting up five mornings of the week to hear a bell, to learn some things that I mostly wasn't interested in and to hear a few teachers tell me that I wasn't going to succeed at anything in my life. 

I did have some wonderful teachers and, for the most part, a healthy school environment. However, I found that having to see some of the people who bullied me- including some teachers- everyday angered me. 

I spent a lot of time actively being angry because when I voiced my opinions, it wasn't always received well. 

Well, bullies, this one is for you. These are the reasons why I forgive you and I send you love:

1. My life doesn't belong to you. 

The past has been left in the past and, it is important to acknowledge that. If I held on to what has been done to me, I would never progress. My life is in my (and the creator's) hands- not yours. I can't keep repeating how you have treated me in my head because my life is mine- not yours. You don't get that much power over me. 

2. I understand you. 

Now that I am an adult, I can see that only hurt people can hurt others. I understand that to have continuously hurt another, you were not well. In order to heal this world, I cannot hold any resentments against you because you didn't know the outcome of your behaviour and so I forgive you. 

3. Any hate that I feel for you is wasted. 

Like Ghandi said, 'An eye for an eye leaves the world blind.' If I plot and scheme against you, I contribute to the problem not the solution. It is challenging to send you love because of our past but sending love always feels better than hating. 

4. You helped me and I am grateful. 

I spent many years wishing that you didn't exist but the truth is that you do. And, your behaviour toward me has strengthened me. So instead of wishing you ill and regretting the day that you were born, I am grateful because you helped me deal with the many critics that I have encountered in my life after you. Because if I could deal with you, when I was the most vulnerable, the critics are merely ashes compared to your fire.

 

 

 

          

 

 

szeke on 

 

3 light reads that are full of wisdom and inspiration.

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Reading is so important, it helps us elevate and learn passed what we already know. Sometimes we don't have the time, or the energy, to read long detailed books. So, it's nice to be able to have the option of shorter and lighter reads that can still challenge our intellect and provide us with a deeper understanding of life. 

 

Here are three of my favourite light-reads:

1. Peace is every step by Thich Nhat Hanh. 

This book is truly beautiful. The Publisher recommends that you can read through this book in 4 hours. It could be shorter; however, Mr. Hanh has such a lovely way of expressing modern day issues and how we can deal with them by focusing on each step with mindfulness and breath. I also recommended this book if you are interested in Buddhism but don't want to fall victim to the dogma of any particular religion. 

 

2. The four agreements by Don Miguel Ruíz. 

Without a doubt one of my favourite books. The Publisher recommends that this book can be finished in 2 hours- I think in  a shorter space of time. Mr. Ruíz introduces us to his ancient Mexican culture and four beliefs from this culture that can help one out of mental suffering and repetitive negative thoughts. He gives these simple agreements, which are like guidelines that guide us through the mental chatter that is not necessary. 

 

3. The Ultimate Happiness Prescription by Deepak Chopra. 

Deepak Chopra is a real holistic pioneer. He has had many NY Times bestsellers. In this particular book, he breaks down the true meaning of happiness and gives 7 steps to how it can be achieved. He also challenges our ideas of what we think success and happiness are. This book will leave you with a deeper understanding of what you need to do in your life to achieve your own happiness. After all, your life is in your hands.