What it took to get to me- August 2020

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What it took to get to me- August 2020

It took me accepting God’s will

To get to me

It took me forgiving my Parents 

To get to me

It took me healing my inner-child 

To get to me

It took me releasing the need to impose my opinion on others

To get to me

It took me being still

To get to me

It took me embracing my Soul family 

To get to me

It took me understanding that happiness is a practice

To get to me

It took me appreciating Divine Masculinity 

To get to me

It took me allowing myself to be lead

To get to me

It took me giving up the idea that I know everything 

To get to me 

4 More things that I am healing from generational trauma.

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In the past year, I have had the fortune to heal immensely and I am so grateful. I used to think that healing was about what I was going through at that time until I met my most recent partner, who had narcissistic tendencies. I spent some time blaming him until I had to understand how I had allowed it and what had led me to that point. 

As I started to delve deep into healing from that relationship, many things rushed to the surface and so my healing began. 

We are always in the process of healing; however, we can acknowledge the how we have healed up until now. 

Here are 4 generational traumas that I am healing from:

1. Thinking that femininity is weak. 

We place a lot of emphasis on male toxicity and it can be detrimental to society. However, we make it seem as though women or feminine energy is weak and incapable of destruction- this is not true. Divine feminine is very powerful and once we heal ourselves, we can tap into that energy that is one of surrendering, trusting and being led. 

I am proud to say that a lot of my energy is that of surrendering and allowing. I want a divine masculine energy to enter my life and take on a leadership role. So that we can create magic together, the divine feminine and the divine masculine. 

2. Leaving the female cult. 

I went to an All Girls’ School for most of my life and it was one of the worst experiences I have been through. I was bullied to think like others, told I was fat and when I behaved differently, I would be ridiculed. Going to this School introduced me to societal female cult that many of us promote without us acknowledging.

I, too, have been a bully and been an example of how a toxic feminine energy embodies herself and it was only until I accepted that I was a destructive force that I was able to change my ways. 

I have left the group thinking that women need to always stick together or that a woman can do no wrong because it allowed me to act harmfully and accept harmful behavior. 

3. Thinking that Mother’s are God’s gift to earth. 

If you had told me a year ago that I would choose to not have my Mother in my life, I would’ve asked you what is wrong with you. It’s interesting that my healing has led me to forgiving my parents and deciding to no longer have my Mother in my life. 

It seems like a harsh decision; however, there comes a time in our lives when we have to decide what is good for us and when we are done fighting and putting up with emotional abuse from others. 

As a society, we focus on the screw-ups of our Fathers but, are too afraid to admit the harsh truths of Mothers. Most are manipulative, unkind and are trying to have their children be how they want them to be and not how God wants them to be. The meanest things that anyone has ever said to me have come from my Mother’s mouth and that is why she has tried to keep me silent by manipulating me and portraying me as a bad person. However, I am so at peace with who I am and the decisions that I have made that I have forgiven, told my truth and I let it go. 

If we are really at peace with ourselves, we don’t need to force someone else to think a certain way. We love how we think and we love how others think. That is true love. 

4. Loving without conditions. 

I’ve briefly touched on this in former articles. I grew up in a culture that was raised to think that just because you go to a good school, are fed and dressed that you are loved. This is not true. A parents job is to do those things that I mentioned and I am sincerely grateful for it but using what we give to someone against them is not love; it is manipulation and guilt. 

I have had some great examples of love from other adults and from my Father. However, as an adult, I have had to re-learn love without conditions and have decided to shed the idea that forcing someone to think and act the way that I want them to is love. Love is patient and kind- not controlling. I am glad that I have been able to see this and can embody acceptance, kindness and truth as love. 

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*This is a memoir-style and is not based on facts.

9 Things that I will never do again.

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Learning is a big part of life and, obviously, the more I grow, the more I learn. I don’t believe in failure, I only believe in lessons and blessings. Whatever form it takes at that time. 

I have made some mistakes in my life and I am grateful because without them, I would not have acquired the knowledge that I have from them. 

So, here are 9 Things I will never do again: 

1. Believe that another human is above me. 

2. Stop myself from being present. 

3. Give in to fearful thoughts. 

4. Control and manipulate another for my Ego’s gain. 

5. Think I know everything there is to know. 

6. Close myself off to forgiveness. 

7. Not believe in second chances. 

8. Love with conditions. Relationships have boundaries but love doesn’t. Sometimes we have to take a step away from someone to love them fully. 

9. Think that I am done growing while my heart is still beating and my lungs are still taking in air. 

9 Choses que quelqu'un pourrait vous dire quand il vous met à gaz.

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Avez-vous déjà quitté une expérience et vous êtes-vous demandé ce qui s'est passé avec une autre personne? Et, presque l'impression qu'une vérité vous a été enfoncée dans la gorge qui n'était pas la vérité? Ou, comme si vous posiez une question à quelqu'un et que vous vous sentiez fou de la poser? J'ai et cela s'appelle être au gaz ou quelqu'un qui vous éclaire au gaz.

Le terme serait dérivé de l'histoire d'un couple où un mari et une femme dînaient tous les soirs et éteignaient certaines lumières, sa réponse était de lui demander s'il le faisait et il disait non. Il a fait ça pendant si longtemps qu'après un certain temps, elle a cessé de demander. C'est ce que le gaslighting est censé faire. Il s'agit de créer une dissonance cognitive chez une personne qui est manipulée ou maltraitée afin que la personne qui est victime de ce comportement devienne une coquille d'elle-même et ne sache pas le bien du mal ou ne puisse pas dire la vérité parce qu'elle est devenue tellement déformée.

J'ai vécu cela dans tous les domaines: dans ma famille, dans des situations de travail et dans les cercles d'amitié. C'est pourquoi il est important d'avoir confiance et de parler d'un lieu d'honnêteté, toujours!

Si vous pensez que quelqu'un vous éclaire au gaz, voici 9 façons dont cela pourrait vous arriver:

1. Vous posez une question à quelqu'un sur quelque chose que vous savez être vrai et on vous dit que vous voyez des choses ou que vous l'avez inventé.

2. Vous confrontez quelqu'un à ce que vous ressentez à propos de quelque chose qu'il a fait ou de la façon dont vous avez été traité et il s'en retourne contre vous. Par exemple, «Si vous ne me faisiez pas ça (quand vous le faisiez), je n’agirais pas de cette façon.

3. Quelqu'un utilise vos vulnérabilités contre vous en vous appelant par des noms ou en les armant dans une dispute ou un désaccord.

4. Vous dites à quelqu'un un secret, il le dit aux autres et vous blâme ensuite de le lui avoir révélé. Ils disent des choses comme: «Vous savez que vous ne pouvez pas me faire confiance».

5. Vous ne pouvez jamais obtenir une vraie réponse de quelqu'un.

6. Quand quelqu'un disparaît après avoir dit qu'il serait là et vous blâme pour son absence.

7. Lorsque vous racontez à quelqu'un une histoire qui vous est arrivée et qu'il vous dit: «Êtes-vous sûr?» Ou «Peut-être que cela ne s'est pas produit».

8. Lorsque vous quittez une personne avec l’impression que vous ne pouvez rien dire parce que cette personne ne croit pas tout ce que vous lui dites ou vous combat au lieu de vous écouter.

9. Quand quelqu'un vous dit de ne pas faire confiance à votre intuition.

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9 Reasons why I forgive my Mother.

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We spend a lot of emphasis, as a society, on forgiving our Father’s; however, little on forgiveness towards our Mother’s. I am not here to write something hateful but a piece that is truthful. Truth is love. 

I would be lying if I said that I felt completely supported and loved by Mother but it has taken me maturing to understand that how she loved me and raised me is between her and God. 

Through forgiveness, I can let go of the direct and indirect pain caused by her towards me as a child so that I can discontinue the hurt that was created. 

Mother’s are human and just like other humans, they deserve forgiveness, too. 

Here are 9 Reasons I forgive my Mother: 

1. I forgive her because she knew not what did/ does. 

2. I forgive her because I choose to love her from a distance. 

3. I forgive her because even though how I was raised created trauma; it was intended that way so that I could heal from it and help others do the same. 

4. I forgive her because I have the real power over my life. 

5. I forgive her because I can’t hold her hostage for the rest of my life for past wrongdoing. 

6. I forgive her because there is enough hate in the world already. 

7. I forgive her because my healing is my responsibility. 

8. I forgive her because hating her will only affect me. 

9. I forgive her because I deserve true and love  peace within my heart. 

9 Affirmations to stabilize Empaths.

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If you are unfamiliar with the terminology of an a Empath, I recommend bringing yourself up to speed with my past articles to figure out whether you are or not. In Lehman’s terms, an Empath is someone who feels deeply and, as a result, can create blockages in their life or future because of how harsh the world can be sometimes. 

Due to these reasons, Empaths need emotional and spiritual stability that can come through prayer, meditation and affirmations. 

Here are 9 affirmations to stabilize and restore Empaths (recommendation is to put one hand on your heart as you are saying them out loud, repeat a few times): 

1. I am light. 

2. I am connected to God. 

3. I am in alignment with abundance. 

4. I am worthy of receiving. 

5. I give and receive simultaneously. 

6. I am at peace with what God has planned for me. 

7. I can inspire others but cannot fix anyone. 

8. I am allowed to feel. 

9. Emotions move through me but don’t define me. 

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9 choses que tous les empathes doivent savoir.

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Ce n'est que récemment que j'ai découvert que je suis un empathe, une personne très intuitive, qui ressent profondément et prend d'autres énergies, claires et sombres. Grâce à ma découverte, j'apprends de plus en plus que ma mission dans la vie est de guérir et avec cet appel vient la responsabilité. Un pour être honnête, véridique et gentil - du mieux que je peux être.

À tous mes autres empathes, c'est pour vous afin que vous ne vous sentiez pas seul et que vous suiviez votre chemin vers votre appel et votre destin.

Voici 9 choses que les empathes doivent savoir:

1. Protégez votre énergie. Tout le monde ne veut pas le meilleur pour vous.

2. C'est bien de dire non.

3. Vous méritez aussi l'amour authentique.

4. Vous n'avez pas à souffrir toute votre vie pour vous sentir vivant.

5. Vos sentiments ne sont pas votre ennemi; ils sont vos amis - apprenez à les exploiter dans la bonne direction.

6. Soyez prêt à laisser derrière vous les personnes et les choses qui vous abattent.

7. Vous méritez de recevoir autant que vous donnez.

8. L'alcool, les drogues et la toxicomanie ne sont pas conçus pour vous empêcher de ressentir. Ne les utilisez pas en tant que tels.

9. Prenez soin des autres mais prenez d'abord soin de vous.

9 Things that I have had to let go of during quarantine.

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When we first went onto lockdown in March, I was dead set and stubborn about holding onto the way that I had seen and done things before. As I mentioned in my latest article, quarantine has been the most challenging time of my life and I have had to re-evaluate everything in my life. 

Right before quarantine, I pulled a tarot oracle card that said, ‘What are you clinging on to!’ I knew deep down that I had been holding on to a way of thinking that was unsustainable: one that meant I over-apologized, was concerned more of outward appearances and one that has left me depleted in loving relationships because I swallowed what I had to say to make sure that I wasn’t left alone or hurt anyone’s feelings.  

Through this challenging time, I have let go of a few things so that I rid myself of my self-inflicting pain. Here are nine of them: 

1. That jobs provide emotional security.

2. That others need to accept me before I accept myself. 

3. That I am able to control everything. 

4. That I know what the future will hold. 

5. That tomorrow is guaranteed or will look how it has looked before. 

6. That I have to surround myself with people who insist on correcting me, putting me into a box and shunning me. 

7. The idea that if I am alone then I am lonely. 

8. That it’s ever too late to do anything about something I want to change. 

9. That God has given up on me. 

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3 Things that I wish I’d known before Quarantine.

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If someone would’ve told me that this year would be how it has been a year ago, I would laugh at them and tell them that they are insane. This year, I have flown to five countries, worked full-time about two months of the six months and, have had my life as I knew it before all this happened ripped out from underneath my feet. In a nutshell, it has been a rollercoaster. 

I went to South Africa for my birthday and to see friends and family in February. And, while I was there, I felt like an outsider. I was grateful to be in Africa but for the first time, I felt like South Africa was not my home and I wondered why. On my way back to Los Angeles, I was so happy to be back in The United States of America. I felt home. I had never ever felt like this in my life. 

I spent the next three weeks working and staying busy. Grateful to be in the city of Angels, whether those angels were in the sky or fallen was none of my business, I felt alive but I had this feeling that I needed to change something about my life. I made a decision to let go of toxicity and one night, I prayed to God to release me of what I no longer needed on my road to truth and prosperity. 

A few days after my prayer, there was a mandate ordered for Yoga studios to shut down and therefore, I would be out of partial work as I teach at different yoga studios. The next day I was doing a tarot reading on myself and I pulled a card that said, ‘What are you clinging on to?’ I knew what it was but was too stubborn to admit that there was people and things that were not a part of the life that I wanted. 

As always, there is nothing that I regret. It took this for me to be here now and the present is the best place I will ever be. 

Here are 3 things that I wish I’d known before Quarantine: 

1. You’ll be okay. 

These past three months have been the hardest time of my life. I have always been an independent and self-sufficient person who has been able to talk, smile or outwit myself out of any situation until this. It went from being two weeks, to a month and then suddenly three months. I went from seeing this as a blessing to crying on my bedroom floor while listening to gospel music. I have had to take each moment day-by-day. 

For the first time in my life, I have been late on my rent by no fault of my own and the feeling of shame has been overwhelming sometimes. The feeling of being in a situation because of something you have no control over has created a different kind of faith and hope that I didn’t know possible. Sure, sometimes I am angry, lost and confused but then I look to God, pray, breathe and remember that everything will be okay because it has been okay. If I have my life, my health, my mind and my soul, I am flourishing. 

2. Get ready to leave behind the old you. 

I have spent my life feeling like an outsider. I always joke that it’s because I am an Aquarius and we are known for that but in truth that was to mask the pain that came from feeling misunderstood a lot of the time. I believe firmly in independent-thinking and I was not raised in a society that allowed that so I was shunned a lot and told to keep quiet for asking questions or thinking differently. Because of this, I developed a thinking that I couldn’t really say how I felt. So, in my earlier years, I would catch myself lying when I wanted to tell the truth, keeping quiet when I wanted to scream and hurting myself instead of releasing my anger in a healthy way. 

Over the years that old façade of me has slowly bee dissipating and eventually was forced to leave my life when I came back from South Africa and noticed how different I was to lifelong friends and family. Some of them didn’t want to hear what I had to say, would flake on me or shame me for wanting to know the truth. I couldn’t hold on any longer. The old me was okay with sacrificing what I had to say to be liked but the new me can’t- just can’t. No matter who hates me, who won’t speak to me again or who thinks I am the worst person alive. I am done playing a role of someone who I am not. I am me: unfiltered, non-PC, sometimes offensive but is trying to be a good person and I am done trying to fit into a mould to be accepted and loved. 

3. Let go of control. 

In my entire life, I have never cried as much as I have in these past three months. I’ve cried tears of joy, tears of pain, tears of anxiety, tears of gratitude, tears of confusion and tears of sadness. In all of my emotional phases, I have had to let go of being in control. 

I admit to being a control freak and it has been something that I have been working on in therapy over the past decade. I have had to learn that control does not equate to power. A hard yet powerful message. For the first time, all the things that I was able to do to remain in control have been taken from me and I have had to redefine what power means. I’m not sure that I know the answer but I do know that holding onto something tightly so that it never leaves is not because of power but it is because of fear. My internal powerful voice knows that what is meant for me will never go, will leave and come back or, had it’s purpose once upon a time. 

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Dear God, thank you…

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Dear God, 

Thank you. I am grateful for your mercy and your grace. I am not perfect and you love me as I am. I know that I have work to do on myself and thank you for highlighting it and I pray that you give me the strength to do so. 

I thank you for sending Archangel Michael for my protection against negativity and darkness that came from those who smiled at me and continuously let me down. Thank you for helping me stay in the light, even when it was difficult and challenging. 

I pray for healing, from the inside out. I pray for your guidance as I am humbly shown to your light. Thank you for showing me why relationships were  severed, friendships dissipated and connections were broken. They were never meant to be. 

I see clearly with my third eye and feel firmly with my gut that I am exactly where I am meant to be. I couldn’t be more grateful. I surrender any worry, anger, despair, grief and torment to you and I choose peace. I choose for your love to wash over me and remind me that I am who I am meant to be, where I am meant to be and with who I am meant to be with. 

Thank you! 

Amen. 

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Ce qu'il a fallu pour m'atteindre.

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Il m'a fallu libérer ma victimisation auto-imposée

Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu comprendre que les gens qui ne m'aiment pas pourraient ne jamais m'aimer Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu libérer des gens qui sont censés m'aimer mais me ridiculiser Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu voir réel comme réel et faux comme faux Pour me rejoindre

Il fallait être réel comme réel Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu m'asseoir dans de profonds regrets et griefs Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu regarder la lumière Pour me rejoindre Ça m'a pris confiance en Dieu Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu comprendre que l'autonomisation est auto-gouvernée Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu être en paix dans ma propre peau Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu comprendre les situations, les gens et les choses sous tous les angles Pour me rejoindre

Il m'a fallu abandonner la nécessité de condamner et d'abandonner les autres Pour me rejoindre

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3 cosas que desearía saber sobre la ira antes de ser adulto.

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He pasado mucho tiempo enojado. En retrospectiva, quién sabe si estaba justificado o no; Sin embargo, sé que la mayor parte de mi ira fue una pérdida de tiempo.

No digo que estar enojado no sea natural; Sin embargo, también digo que la mentalidad de alguien que está enojado es limitada porque cuando estamos enojados, nuestro enfoque es como un toro con un blanco rojo y nos olvidamos de apreciar lo que nos rodea.

A lo largo de los años, aprendí a calmar mi ira o reconocerla y luego avanzar. Aquí hay 3 cosas que desearía haber sabido sobre la ira antes de convertirme en adulto:

1. No dejes que la ira se interponga en tu futuro.

Mis años de adolescencia y principios de los veinte los pasé enojado y lleno de ira. Aunque, en su mayor parte, me percibía feliz y bien organizado, tenía mucha ira interna. Ahora que he crecido, puedo resumir estar enojado como resultado de cómo me sentí tratado por los hombres. En mi opinión, era una víctima y, por lo tanto, tenía derecho a estar enojado por la forma en que los hombres me habían tratado durante toda mi vida. Lo poco que sabía es que toda esa ira solo me estaba haciendo daño.

Hace 8 años, decidí dejar atrás mi ira porque noté cómo se autoinfligía y me impedía lograr algo valioso en mi vida. Una vez que liberé mi ira, noté un gran cambio en mi vida. Pasé de ser una víctima perpetua a un vencedor y tomé una posición en la dirección correcta hacia la curación y el perdón.

2. La ira desencadena los receptores de estrés de nuestros cuerpos.

Soy profesora de yoga y guía espiritual. Lo que aprendí en mí y en otros es que estar enojado libera receptores de estrés en nuestros cuerpos y crea inflamación que internamente tiene tremendos efectos negativos en nuestra salud.

Una de las bases del yoga es calmar el cuerpo para unificarlo con nuestra mente y alma. Noté que la ira me impidió unificar mi cuerpo y lo sacó de su estado natural: el bienestar. Cuando estamos en paz, nuestros cuerpos pueden hacer lo que deben hacer sin ser bombardeados por el miedo y la ira.

3. La mejor manera de tener control es estar en paz sobre algo.

Uno de los puntos de inflexión más fundamentales de cuando tenía veinte años es cuando decidí dejar de culpar a los hombres por la razón por la cual mis relaciones no habían funcionado. Verá, adopté la ideología femenina tóxica de que todos los hombres son malos y creó una profunda ira dentro de mí y bloqueó la entrada de cualquier hombre en mi vida porque estaba convencido de que todos eran malos.

Entonces, incluso si un hombre bueno y saludable entró en mi vida, estaba atrapado en estar enojado y salir con hombres que desencadenaron esta emoción en mí. Después de este momento de realización, he tenido mis momentos de enojo, ¡sí! Sin embargo, puedo sentir surgir mi ira y elegir si quiero participar o no.

A veces la ira es útil, pero estar enojado todo el tiempo no es la dirección en la que quiero que esté mi vida. Quiero apuntar a la paz y rendirme para poder salir de las situaciones sabiendo que hay mucho que puedo hacer y yo deja el resto a Dios.

3 Things that I wish I’d known about anger before I became an adult.

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I have spent a lot of time being angry. In retrospect, who knows if it was warranted or not; however, I do know that most of my anger was a waste of my time. I’m not saying that being angry isn’t natural; however, I am also saying that the mindset of someone who is angry is limited because when we are angry, our focus is like a bull with a red target and we forget to appreciate what is around us. 

Over the years, I have learnt how to calmly my anger down or acknowledge it and then move forward from it. 
Here are 3 things I wish I’d known about anger before I became an adult: 

1. Don’t let anger get in the way of your future. 

My teenage years and early twenties were spent being angry and full of rage. Even though, for the most part, I perceived myself to be happy and put well together, I had a lot of inner anger. Now that I have grown, I can sum up being angry as a result of how I felt I was treated by men. In my mind, I was a victim and therefore I had a right to be angry at how men had treated me throughout my life. 

Little did I know is that all that anger was only hurting me. 8 years ago, I decided to leave my anger behind because I noticed how it was self-inflicted and stopping me from achieving anything valuable in my life. Once I released my anger, I noticed a big shift in my life. I went from being a perpetual victim to a victor and took a stand in the right direction towards healing and forgiveness. 

2. Anger triggers our bodies’ stress receptors. I am a yoga teacher and spiritual guide. What I have learnt in myself and others is that being angry releases stress receptors into our bodies and creates inflammation which internally has tremendous negative effects on our health.

One of the foundations of yoga is calming the body down to unify it with our mind and soul. I noticed that anger stopped me from unifying my body and took it out of its natural state: well-being. When we are at peace, our bodies can do what they are meant to do without being bombarded by fear and anger.

 3. The best way to have control is to be at peace about something. One of the most fundamental turning points of when I was in my twenties is when I decided to stop blaming men for the reason why my relationships had not been working out. You see, I had adopted the toxic female ideology that all men are bad and it created deep anger within me and it blocked any man coming into my life because I was convinced that all were bad.

So even if a good and wholesome man entered my life, I was stuck on being angry and dating men who triggered this emotion in me. After this moment of realization, I have had my angry moments yes! However, I can feel my anger arise and choose if I want to partake in it or not. Sometimes anger is useful but being angry all the time is not the direction of where I want my life to be in. I want to aim for peace and surrender so that I can leave situations knowing that there is only so much I can do and I leave the rest up to God. 

9 Choses que j'apprends.

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L'une des plus grandes choses que je dois admettre en tant qu'adulte est la façon dont nous avons été conditionnés pour penser d'une certaine manière. Ce qui devient évident lorsque quelqu'un qui ne pense pas comme les masses exprime son opinion. Ils sont souvent accueillis avec rage, jugement et critique. C'est très inutile.

Bien que je n'aie pas toujours agi sur ce point, je crois en l'individualisme et à la pensée critique, car ce qui fonctionne pour vous peut ne pas fonctionner pour un autre. Dans la société occidentale, nous avons le choix de nous responsabiliser avec nos pensées et nos actions. Parfois, nous oublions cela.

J'ai appris beaucoup de choses, mais voici seulement 9 d'entre elles:

1. Ce qui me convient n'a pas besoin d'être approuvé par quelqu'un d'autre.

2. C'est à moi de faire ce dont j'ai besoin.

3. Attendre qu'une autre personne me voie ou me valide est une perte de temps.

4. Réagir à une personne négative donne à l'autre le pouvoir.

5. Tout le monde ne comprend pas la valeur de la paix.

6. La croissance est toujours possible. Je dois juste le faire étape par étape.

7. Parfois, la santé est un effort physique, oui! Mais, parfois, il abandonne des personnes qui ont laissé le poison et la peur les contrôler.

8. Faites confiance à ce que vous savez. Pas ce qui vous a été forcé à la gorge.

9. Nous ne pouvons atteindre notre plein potentiel qu'en guérissant de l'intérieur vers l'extérieur.

9 Things I am learning.

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One of the biggest things that I have to admit as an adult is how we have been conditioned to think a certain way. Which becomes evident when someone who doesn’t think like the masses voices their opinion. They are often met with rage, judgement and criticism. It is very un-necessary. 

Although I haven’t always acted on this, I believe in individualism and critical thinking because what works for you might not work for another. Im Western society, we have the choice to empower ourselves with our thoughts and actions. Sometimes we forget that. 

I have been learning many things but here are just 9 of them: 

1. What is right for me doesn’t need to be approved by someone else. 

2. It is up to me to get what I need done. 

3. Waiting on another person to see me or validate me is a waste of time. 

4. Reacting to a negative person gives the other person power. 

5. Not everyone understands the value of peace. 

6. Growth is always possible. I just have to take it step-by-step. 

7. Sometimes health is physical effort, yes! But, sometimes it is letting go of people who have allowed poison and fear to control them. 

8. Trust what you know. Not what has been forced down your throat. 

9. We can only reach our full potential by healing from the inside out. 

9 Ways to de-stress.

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We are in some pretty hectic times and although life can’t always be easy and smooth, we must remember that stress has a direct correlation to the increase of illnesses and deaths because it impacts our immune system. 

So, please make sure that you are taking steps to calm yourself so that your body can restore. Physical trauma can leave un-necessary wear and tear. 

Here are 9 ways to de-stress: 

1. Meditation. 

2. Light lavender candles. 

3. Place lavender droplets on your bed. 

4. Massage your body with lavender oil. 

5. Yin Yoga, great for restoration: joint and tissue relaxation. 

6. Burn some sage, lavender incense or palo santo. 

7. Breathwork. 

8. Journaling: write down who you forgive and what you you want to let go of. 

9. Pray. Surrender your stresses to The High Power.

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9 Choses que j'ai dû admettre quand j'ai décidé de guérir.

La guérison est un processus et un voyage à vie. Je ne suis pas ici pour vous dire que je sais tout et que je suis meilleur que vous. Je suis humain et, tout comme vous, j'ai eu des hauts et des bas. C'est la vie et je questionne quiconque pense le contraire. Cette dernière année a été l'une des périodes les plus révélatrices et guérissantes de ma vie parce que j'ai découvert des schémas abusifs dans les relations, les familles et les situations de travail.

Avec cette décision de guérir vient le moment où je devais être honnête avec moi-même sur tout, mon passé, le présent et ce que je veux pour l'avenir.

Voici 9 choses que je devais m'avouer lorsque j'ai décidé de guérir:

1. Vous pourriez vous retrouver seul la plupart du temps mais vous n'êtes pas seul. Dieu est avec toi.

2. Certaines personnes peuvent devenir jalouses et penser que vous allez mieux, mais c'est leur projection.

3. Vous éprouverez beaucoup de regrets du passé sur la façon dont vous avez géré certaines choses, pardonnez-vous.

4. Vous ne voudrez peut-être pas faire le travail, mais cela rapporte toujours.

5. L'intention ne suffit pas. Nos actions doivent également correspondre à notre intention.

6. Vous pourriez perdre des amis et des membres de la famille pour différentes raisons. Tout le monde n'est pas censé vous accompagner là où vous allez. C'est d'accord.

7. La croissance n'est pas pour les timides et irrationnels.

8. Les gens qui veulent vous faire taire ne vous méritent pas.

9. Respirez et pardonnez. Pardonnez-vous, aux autres et à tout ce qui vous entrave. Vous méritez la liberté et cela vient une fois que vous avez été honnête avec vous-même.

9 Things that I had to admit to myself when I decided to heal.

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Healing is a process and a lifelong journey. I’m not here to tell you that I know it all and I am better than you. I am human and, just like you, I have had my ups-and-downs. That is life and I question anyone who thinks otherwise about this. 

This past year has been one of the most revealing and healing times of my life because I have been uncovering abusive patterns in relationships, families and work situations. With that decision to heal comes the point when I had to be honest with myself about everything, my past, the present and what I want for the future. 

Here are 9 things that I had to admit to myself when I decided to heal: 

1. You might find yourself alone a lot of the time but you are not alone. God is with you. 

2. Some people may become jealous and think you are better but that is their projection. 

3. You will experience a great deal of regret from the past of how you dealt with some things, forgive yourself. 

4. You might not want to do the work but it always pays off. 

5. Intention is not enough. Our actions have to match our intent, too. 

6. You might lose some friends and family members for different reasons. Not everyone is meant to come with you to where you are going. It is okay. 

7. Growth is not for the faint-hearted and irrational. 

8. People who want to silence you, do not deserve you. 

9. Breathe and forgive. Forgive yourself, others and anything else that is shackling you. You deserve freedom and that comes once you have been honest with yourself.

I forgive myself- 5/24/2020

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I forgive myself. 

I forgive myself for ever thinking that I had to sacrifice my morality and self-worth to be accepted. 

I forgive myself for allowing my kindness to be understood as weakness and not standing up for myself when necessary as a constant. 

I forgive myself for allowing negative energy to enter my space. 

I forgive myself for ever believing people who devalued me and tried to bring me down. 

I forgive myself for thinking that everyone wanted the best for me because not everyone does. 

I forgive myself for taking on others’ burdens as my own. 

I forgive myself for believing that evil is just as powerful as good. When good always wins. 

I forgive myself for accepting my own and other people’s broken pieces as whole. We work and better ourselves to become whole. 

I forgive myself for thinking that someone else’s crumbs were enough for me to accept as a whole cake. 

I forgive myself for allowing jadedness to affect me. 

I forgive myself for allowing some people’s abusive words to hold power when God’s word is the only one that defines me. 

I forgive myself for ever going back on a boundary that was set for my own and other’s betterment. 

I forgive myself for trying to be accepted by the unacceptable. 

3 Things that I have learnt about vultures.

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As hard as it is to admit this about life, a lot of it comes with vultures. People who take from others and are incapable of thinking of anyone else but themselves. All of us have aspects of this within- that is how we survive. However, there are some who lack the ability to look within, apologize and decide to give to someone without using it against that person in the future. 

These are vultures and they exist in all realms of life: family, friends, romantic relationships and work life. I’m not a psychologist or have studied psychology. However, I am a certified health coach and a spiritual guide. I have had many experiences with this behaviour, with others and even with myself. Until I chose to better myself, I was a vulture, too. 

Here are a few things that I have learnt about vultures: 

1. They give and love with conditions. 

Unfortunately, most of us are raised in a very selfish way of thinking. Many of us were taught and conditioned to believe that if I give to you, you owe me or I can use it against you in the future to make myself feel like a better person. I used to think this way. I have given and loved with conditions, tit-for-tat. This kind of conditioning is exhausting. I saw that when I expected others to give to me, it tired me because I was waiting on a day that night never come to me. 

Once, I learnt to give from a place of abundance, I released the need to get back. There is a difference between always giving and never receiving in return and, giving with the sole purpose to receive. The former is allowing ourselves to be used and the latter comes from a self-centered place. Vultures feel entitled to receive, so giving from abundance is not worthy of them doing. 

2. They can never really be happy. 

Have you ever been in the presence of someone who always has something negative to say about others? Sometimes I notice myself being that person and ask myself to focus on gratitude. I’m not sure why this is the case but, as a whole, we have a tendency to look to the negative. There have been studies that suggest we derive this from our biological nature to survive and need to be critical so that we can understand what we are up against in order to evolve as a species. 

However, I have learnt and am still learning that only pointing out the negative aspect of people is exhausting- not for them; for me. A long time ago, a friend asked me, ‘Are you ever happy with a situation?’ And, I had to be honest with myself, the answer was no. I had been conditioned and had a tendency to look to the negative. That’s when I started to meditate and consciously focus on the things are positive. There is a difference between complaining about something and acting on it to make it better vs. perpetually seeing the wrong in situations and not doing anything about it. 

3. They are just around to use you. 

This has been a constant theme in my life and I’m sure it’s a common theme in most people’s lives. I am not perfect- I don’t want to be. But, something that I take pride in is that I like to live in positivity. I believe in betterment and progression through self and hard work. Not everyone thinks like this and they don’t have to. However, when you think like this, vultures want a piece. 

You see, vultures want a piece of what you have created and what you will create at any cost because they lack the capability to do it for themselves and have a sense of jealousy towards others. If you notice there is someone who is in your life who tells you what you want to hear, disappears when you need them and is never really happy for you, you might have a vulture in your life. Notice how they respond to boundaries because they don’t take well to them and will intrude on perimeters you have set because their purpose is not to bring anything valuable into your life but to take as much as they can.

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