3 Things that I wish I’d known before Quarantine.

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If someone would’ve told me that this year would be how it has been a year ago, I would laugh at them and tell them that they are insane. This year, I have flown to five countries, worked full-time about two months of the six months and, have had my life as I knew it before all this happened ripped out from underneath my feet. In a nutshell, it has been a rollercoaster. 

I went to South Africa for my birthday and to see friends and family in February. And, while I was there, I felt like an outsider. I was grateful to be in Africa but for the first time, I felt like South Africa was not my home and I wondered why. On my way back to Los Angeles, I was so happy to be back in The United States of America. I felt home. I had never ever felt like this in my life. 

I spent the next three weeks working and staying busy. Grateful to be in the city of Angels, whether those angels were in the sky or fallen was none of my business, I felt alive but I had this feeling that I needed to change something about my life. I made a decision to let go of toxicity and one night, I prayed to God to release me of what I no longer needed on my road to truth and prosperity. 

A few days after my prayer, there was a mandate ordered for Yoga studios to shut down and therefore, I would be out of partial work as I teach at different yoga studios. The next day I was doing a tarot reading on myself and I pulled a card that said, ‘What are you clinging on to?’ I knew what it was but was too stubborn to admit that there was people and things that were not a part of the life that I wanted. 

As always, there is nothing that I regret. It took this for me to be here now and the present is the best place I will ever be. 

Here are 3 things that I wish I’d known before Quarantine: 

1. You’ll be okay. 

These past three months have been the hardest time of my life. I have always been an independent and self-sufficient person who has been able to talk, smile or outwit myself out of any situation until this. It went from being two weeks, to a month and then suddenly three months. I went from seeing this as a blessing to crying on my bedroom floor while listening to gospel music. I have had to take each moment day-by-day. 

For the first time in my life, I have been late on my rent by no fault of my own and the feeling of shame has been overwhelming sometimes. The feeling of being in a situation because of something you have no control over has created a different kind of faith and hope that I didn’t know possible. Sure, sometimes I am angry, lost and confused but then I look to God, pray, breathe and remember that everything will be okay because it has been okay. If I have my life, my health, my mind and my soul, I am flourishing. 

2. Get ready to leave behind the old you. 

I have spent my life feeling like an outsider. I always joke that it’s because I am an Aquarius and we are known for that but in truth that was to mask the pain that came from feeling misunderstood a lot of the time. I believe firmly in independent-thinking and I was not raised in a society that allowed that so I was shunned a lot and told to keep quiet for asking questions or thinking differently. Because of this, I developed a thinking that I couldn’t really say how I felt. So, in my earlier years, I would catch myself lying when I wanted to tell the truth, keeping quiet when I wanted to scream and hurting myself instead of releasing my anger in a healthy way. 

Over the years that old façade of me has slowly bee dissipating and eventually was forced to leave my life when I came back from South Africa and noticed how different I was to lifelong friends and family. Some of them didn’t want to hear what I had to say, would flake on me or shame me for wanting to know the truth. I couldn’t hold on any longer. The old me was okay with sacrificing what I had to say to be liked but the new me can’t- just can’t. No matter who hates me, who won’t speak to me again or who thinks I am the worst person alive. I am done playing a role of someone who I am not. I am me: unfiltered, non-PC, sometimes offensive but is trying to be a good person and I am done trying to fit into a mould to be accepted and loved. 

3. Let go of control. 

In my entire life, I have never cried as much as I have in these past three months. I’ve cried tears of joy, tears of pain, tears of anxiety, tears of gratitude, tears of confusion and tears of sadness. In all of my emotional phases, I have had to let go of being in control. 

I admit to being a control freak and it has been something that I have been working on in therapy over the past decade. I have had to learn that control does not equate to power. A hard yet powerful message. For the first time, all the things that I was able to do to remain in control have been taken from me and I have had to redefine what power means. I’m not sure that I know the answer but I do know that holding onto something tightly so that it never leaves is not because of power but it is because of fear. My internal powerful voice knows that what is meant for me will never go, will leave and come back or, had it’s purpose once upon a time. 

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3 cosas que desearía saber sobre la ira antes de ser adulto.

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He pasado mucho tiempo enojado. En retrospectiva, quién sabe si estaba justificado o no; Sin embargo, sé que la mayor parte de mi ira fue una pérdida de tiempo.

No digo que estar enojado no sea natural; Sin embargo, también digo que la mentalidad de alguien que está enojado es limitada porque cuando estamos enojados, nuestro enfoque es como un toro con un blanco rojo y nos olvidamos de apreciar lo que nos rodea.

A lo largo de los años, aprendí a calmar mi ira o reconocerla y luego avanzar. Aquí hay 3 cosas que desearía haber sabido sobre la ira antes de convertirme en adulto:

1. No dejes que la ira se interponga en tu futuro.

Mis años de adolescencia y principios de los veinte los pasé enojado y lleno de ira. Aunque, en su mayor parte, me percibía feliz y bien organizado, tenía mucha ira interna. Ahora que he crecido, puedo resumir estar enojado como resultado de cómo me sentí tratado por los hombres. En mi opinión, era una víctima y, por lo tanto, tenía derecho a estar enojado por la forma en que los hombres me habían tratado durante toda mi vida. Lo poco que sabía es que toda esa ira solo me estaba haciendo daño.

Hace 8 años, decidí dejar atrás mi ira porque noté cómo se autoinfligía y me impedía lograr algo valioso en mi vida. Una vez que liberé mi ira, noté un gran cambio en mi vida. Pasé de ser una víctima perpetua a un vencedor y tomé una posición en la dirección correcta hacia la curación y el perdón.

2. La ira desencadena los receptores de estrés de nuestros cuerpos.

Soy profesora de yoga y guía espiritual. Lo que aprendí en mí y en otros es que estar enojado libera receptores de estrés en nuestros cuerpos y crea inflamación que internamente tiene tremendos efectos negativos en nuestra salud.

Una de las bases del yoga es calmar el cuerpo para unificarlo con nuestra mente y alma. Noté que la ira me impidió unificar mi cuerpo y lo sacó de su estado natural: el bienestar. Cuando estamos en paz, nuestros cuerpos pueden hacer lo que deben hacer sin ser bombardeados por el miedo y la ira.

3. La mejor manera de tener control es estar en paz sobre algo.

Uno de los puntos de inflexión más fundamentales de cuando tenía veinte años es cuando decidí dejar de culpar a los hombres por la razón por la cual mis relaciones no habían funcionado. Verá, adopté la ideología femenina tóxica de que todos los hombres son malos y creó una profunda ira dentro de mí y bloqueó la entrada de cualquier hombre en mi vida porque estaba convencido de que todos eran malos.

Entonces, incluso si un hombre bueno y saludable entró en mi vida, estaba atrapado en estar enojado y salir con hombres que desencadenaron esta emoción en mí. Después de este momento de realización, he tenido mis momentos de enojo, ¡sí! Sin embargo, puedo sentir surgir mi ira y elegir si quiero participar o no.

A veces la ira es útil, pero estar enojado todo el tiempo no es la dirección en la que quiero que esté mi vida. Quiero apuntar a la paz y rendirme para poder salir de las situaciones sabiendo que hay mucho que puedo hacer y yo deja el resto a Dios.

9 Things I am learning.

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One of the biggest things that I have to admit as an adult is how we have been conditioned to think a certain way. Which becomes evident when someone who doesn’t think like the masses voices their opinion. They are often met with rage, judgement and criticism. It is very un-necessary. 

Although I haven’t always acted on this, I believe in individualism and critical thinking because what works for you might not work for another. Im Western society, we have the choice to empower ourselves with our thoughts and actions. Sometimes we forget that. 

I have been learning many things but here are just 9 of them: 

1. What is right for me doesn’t need to be approved by someone else. 

2. It is up to me to get what I need done. 

3. Waiting on another person to see me or validate me is a waste of time. 

4. Reacting to a negative person gives the other person power. 

5. Not everyone understands the value of peace. 

6. Growth is always possible. I just have to take it step-by-step. 

7. Sometimes health is physical effort, yes! But, sometimes it is letting go of people who have allowed poison and fear to control them. 

8. Trust what you know. Not what has been forced down your throat. 

9. We can only reach our full potential by healing from the inside out. 

9 Ways to de-stress.

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We are in some pretty hectic times and although life can’t always be easy and smooth, we must remember that stress has a direct correlation to the increase of illnesses and deaths because it impacts our immune system. 

So, please make sure that you are taking steps to calm yourself so that your body can restore. Physical trauma can leave un-necessary wear and tear. 

Here are 9 ways to de-stress: 

1. Meditation. 

2. Light lavender candles. 

3. Place lavender droplets on your bed. 

4. Massage your body with lavender oil. 

5. Yin Yoga, great for restoration: joint and tissue relaxation. 

6. Burn some sage, lavender incense or palo santo. 

7. Breathwork. 

8. Journaling: write down who you forgive and what you you want to let go of. 

9. Pray. Surrender your stresses to The High Power.

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9 Things that I had to admit to myself when I decided to heal.

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Healing is a process and a lifelong journey. I’m not here to tell you that I know it all and I am better than you. I am human and, just like you, I have had my ups-and-downs. That is life and I question anyone who thinks otherwise about this. 

This past year has been one of the most revealing and healing times of my life because I have been uncovering abusive patterns in relationships, families and work situations. With that decision to heal comes the point when I had to be honest with myself about everything, my past, the present and what I want for the future. 

Here are 9 things that I had to admit to myself when I decided to heal: 

1. You might find yourself alone a lot of the time but you are not alone. God is with you. 

2. Some people may become jealous and think you are better but that is their projection. 

3. You will experience a great deal of regret from the past of how you dealt with some things, forgive yourself. 

4. You might not want to do the work but it always pays off. 

5. Intention is not enough. Our actions have to match our intent, too. 

6. You might lose some friends and family members for different reasons. Not everyone is meant to come with you to where you are going. It is okay. 

7. Growth is not for the faint-hearted and irrational. 

8. People who want to silence you, do not deserve you. 

9. Breathe and forgive. Forgive yourself, others and anything else that is shackling you. You deserve freedom and that comes once you have been honest with yourself.

I forgive myself- 5/24/2020

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I forgive myself. 

I forgive myself for ever thinking that I had to sacrifice my morality and self-worth to be accepted. 

I forgive myself for allowing my kindness to be understood as weakness and not standing up for myself when necessary as a constant. 

I forgive myself for allowing negative energy to enter my space. 

I forgive myself for ever believing people who devalued me and tried to bring me down. 

I forgive myself for thinking that everyone wanted the best for me because not everyone does. 

I forgive myself for taking on others’ burdens as my own. 

I forgive myself for believing that evil is just as powerful as good. When good always wins. 

I forgive myself for accepting my own and other people’s broken pieces as whole. We work and better ourselves to become whole. 

I forgive myself for thinking that someone else’s crumbs were enough for me to accept as a whole cake. 

I forgive myself for allowing jadedness to affect me. 

I forgive myself for allowing some people’s abusive words to hold power when God’s word is the only one that defines me. 

I forgive myself for ever going back on a boundary that was set for my own and other’s betterment. 

I forgive myself for trying to be accepted by the unacceptable. 

3 Things that I have learnt about vultures.

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As hard as it is to admit this about life, a lot of it comes with vultures. People who take from others and are incapable of thinking of anyone else but themselves. All of us have aspects of this within- that is how we survive. However, there are some who lack the ability to look within, apologize and decide to give to someone without using it against that person in the future. 

These are vultures and they exist in all realms of life: family, friends, romantic relationships and work life. I’m not a psychologist or have studied psychology. However, I am a certified health coach and a spiritual guide. I have had many experiences with this behaviour, with others and even with myself. Until I chose to better myself, I was a vulture, too. 

Here are a few things that I have learnt about vultures: 

1. They give and love with conditions. 

Unfortunately, most of us are raised in a very selfish way of thinking. Many of us were taught and conditioned to believe that if I give to you, you owe me or I can use it against you in the future to make myself feel like a better person. I used to think this way. I have given and loved with conditions, tit-for-tat. This kind of conditioning is exhausting. I saw that when I expected others to give to me, it tired me because I was waiting on a day that night never come to me. 

Once, I learnt to give from a place of abundance, I released the need to get back. There is a difference between always giving and never receiving in return and, giving with the sole purpose to receive. The former is allowing ourselves to be used and the latter comes from a self-centered place. Vultures feel entitled to receive, so giving from abundance is not worthy of them doing. 

2. They can never really be happy. 

Have you ever been in the presence of someone who always has something negative to say about others? Sometimes I notice myself being that person and ask myself to focus on gratitude. I’m not sure why this is the case but, as a whole, we have a tendency to look to the negative. There have been studies that suggest we derive this from our biological nature to survive and need to be critical so that we can understand what we are up against in order to evolve as a species. 

However, I have learnt and am still learning that only pointing out the negative aspect of people is exhausting- not for them; for me. A long time ago, a friend asked me, ‘Are you ever happy with a situation?’ And, I had to be honest with myself, the answer was no. I had been conditioned and had a tendency to look to the negative. That’s when I started to meditate and consciously focus on the things are positive. There is a difference between complaining about something and acting on it to make it better vs. perpetually seeing the wrong in situations and not doing anything about it. 

3. They are just around to use you. 

This has been a constant theme in my life and I’m sure it’s a common theme in most people’s lives. I am not perfect- I don’t want to be. But, something that I take pride in is that I like to live in positivity. I believe in betterment and progression through self and hard work. Not everyone thinks like this and they don’t have to. However, when you think like this, vultures want a piece. 

You see, vultures want a piece of what you have created and what you will create at any cost because they lack the capability to do it for themselves and have a sense of jealousy towards others. If you notice there is someone who is in your life who tells you what you want to hear, disappears when you need them and is never really happy for you, you might have a vulture in your life. Notice how they respond to boundaries because they don’t take well to them and will intrude on perimeters you have set because their purpose is not to bring anything valuable into your life but to take as much as they can.

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9 Things that I am grateful for.

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In this time of uncertainty and tendency to focus on the negative, the practice of gratitude is important. 

Gratitude lifts our vibration and reminds us of all the good in our life. That doesn’t mean that we don’t work on our problems and get us out of a position but sometimes we need to remember positivity so that we can work towards it. 

Here are 9 things that I am grateful for right now: 

1. My body. 

2. My mind. 

3. The time to pause and reflect. 

4. Situations that I have let go of.

5. This time to grow. 

6. This time to forgiveness. 

7. The awakening taking place within me and others. 

8. People and things that I was not for, vice versa. 

9. God’s grace. 

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I forgive myself.

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Why do I want to forgive myself? 

Because now that I know better, I am doing better. 

I forgive myself because sometimes growth comes in the form of making mistakes and learning from them. 

I forgive myself because I refuse to be shackled to my low moments in life. I choose to vibrate higher and see the silver-lining in every situation, including the choices that I have made. 

I forgive myself because aiming for perfection isn’t helpful and doesn’t allow me to connect with others. 

I forgive myself because a lot of life is about getting back up again, even when we don’t think it’s possible. 

I forgive myself so that I can hold myself accountable today, tomorrow and in the future- without emotionally labelling myself. 

I forgive myself because mental and physical freedom is not free, sometimes I have to fight for it. 

What I wish I’d known about these 3 types of personalities.

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Life is a journey and we are dealt with cards that we can either use to advantage us or work against us. You might have heard this analogy often. But what does this mean? To me, it means that I will make the best of life no matter what is thrown at me. I will work hard, think smart and do what I can to be my best, regardless of where I have come from, the colour of my skin or being born a woman because my power is in my hands. 

Having this mindset has gotten me into a lot of hot water. I admit to not always being sensitive and compassionate in some areas- which I am working on. However, I have learnt that there are personality types that would rather whine than work, complain rather than correct and, defy true freedom rather than define it for themselves. 

I am learning more and more as I go and mostly, that you can’t help those who do not want to be helped. 

Here is more of what I wish I had known about these 3 types of personalities: 

1. Those who refuse to grow. 

Growth is optional and the older that I get, the more that I can clearly differentiate the difference between people who make an effort to evolve vs. those who stay stagnant. I was one of those people who felt like I could stay the same and that nothing would change me or my view on life. But, I quickly learnt that I would only hurt myself  if I was not open to seeing life from a different perspective. 

Refusing to grow works against the cycle of our lives. Just like trees shed leaves, we are meant to shed a part of our personality and acquire another. That is evolving. Understanding what works and what doesn’t. If we don’t evolve and figure out what isn’t working for us, we only hurt ourselves because we are recreating the same life, over and over and expecting different results. Which is a form of insanity. 

2. Those who blame what has happened to them on other people. 

A friend shared a quote on Instagram that said, ‘The World might be responsible for your pain but, you are responsible for your own healing.’ And, it resonated with me deeply. I recounted the amount of times that I had blamed things on being a woman, a person of colour or being raised in a developing country. Then, I remembered how good it felt to be empowered anyway.

Despite what my ancestors (regardless of heritage) had experienced, I am here today. That is proof that more is going right than not. The power is in using what I thought were my disadvantages as my advantages. I connect with people who feel isolated because I once did and I understand fully that isolation is sometimes external but is usually self-imposed. 

We can spend our time blaming or work to being whole and full of love. It might be unfair, yes! But, who loses if we don’t? Definitely not the person we blame, we do. 

3. People who will never be happy with me. 

I used to suffer deeply from the need to make people around me happy. When I became self-aware of this, I thought that it was to save the person that I wanted to make happy. However, I came to realize that it was to serve me and my Ego. 

You see, if I had to be around someone who wasn’t pleased with me, I felt badly because I wanted to appear like a good person. Over the past decade, I have been healing this part of myself. The side that wants to appear ‘good’ because I have learnt that if I am living truthfully, not everyone will be happy with me. 

I have had to learn that some people won’t like me, especially when I am not following the crowds and stand up for what is moral and in alignment with God’s word. It is not my job to be liked and releasing myself of the need to be held hostage by other people’s opinions is liberating. I might go through life never being understood by others but as long as I live a life that praises God, is ethically sound and health-orientated, I don’t have to look to others for acceptance. I can look within for all the embrace that I will ever need. 

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3 Reasons why I have let go of a few people from my past.

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Although I was born in New York, the city of authenticity and innovation, I grew up in South Africa and England. I live in Los Angeles where I feel like I am meant to be here and I could never understand why growing up I never fit in. I just went back to South Africa and I felt like a foreigner. I had the same feeling that I had growing up. I appreciate that place and am grateful for what I learnt there; however, I had a continual feeling there that my opinion is not worthy of hearing amongst peers and social circles. 

When I came back from my trip, I kept asking myself the question of why I felt like I only connected with a few people of my High School circles and peers. Like with any answer, if you are awake, God will reveal the answer over time. 

I have recently gone through a personal awakening which involves lifestyle, career and politics. I had expressed how I felt on FaceBook with a former High School teacher of mine and began to get attacked because of my comment by her and her friends. I had the same feeling that I had felt growing up and expressing my views. 

I didn’t call anyone names and I told a tale of a personal story and what I had gone through in support of a particular political candidate. Which is my human right. 

As the memories came back of when I was a girl and would speak up for what I believed and received tons of backlash. I decided to cut the chord between this group of people and I. Furthermore, any other person who suppressed  my right to speak and say how I feel over the past years. 

Here are 3 Reasons why I let go of my some people from my past: 

1. It was time. 

I have been very vocal about how I didn’t fit in going to two British Schools in South Africa. The intention behind sending me there was well-intended but it is designed to stifle free-thinking. I am a debater and a free-thinker. I will accept your views with a justified argument as others ought to accept mine. Growing up, I didn’t feel like that this was the case. I spent a lot of time trying to fit in and then giving up because it cost me more energy and time to force fitting in than to be myself. 

I am done with situations and people who require energy to force and fit myself into another person because individualism is about self-expression. If people can’t accept what I am bringing to the table, there is no point in forcing them to. 

2. I deserve people around me who treat me with care. 

I am not a victim but I have had a tendency to let some people dump their issues onto me and I have also allowed a few to bully me into changing my mind about an important issue in my life. But those days are gone. I am too grown and too well-read to allow anyone to sway my opinion anymore. Last year, I made a decision to be open to new ideas but also stand for certain issues, not based on what the masses were doing but based upon my alignment with God and what he intends for me and his children. Because that alignment has always been the best for me. 

If God treats me with me mercy and kindness, there is no need to surround myself with people who don’t. 

3. I choose a life of respect and peace. 

We all have our situations where we argue and even fight but as long as we can understand one another then we are working towards peace. I have learnt that some people do not want peace and respect in their lives, which is okay. But it is important for me. 

It is imperative for me to work towards peace. But, self-sacrifice is not that. It is giving in. I have chosen to surround myself with those who we can respectfully disagree without condescending behaviour towards one another because no one wins. 

We spend so much time chasing the number 1 spot: financially, physically and mentally and we forget that we can be number 3, 10 or even last, and be worthy too as long as we are at peace with ourselves and those around us, not all the time but most of the time. I respectfully release some people from my past because peace is one of the most important currencies in my life. 

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3 Things that I have learnt about toxic femininity.

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When I began this (now) successful blog and magazine, I had no idea how well it would be received. Three years ago, after I went through something traumatic in my life, I decided to do the real work and as I did the work, I would document it and tell others how I had healed or was still healing from something that I had gone through in my life. 

I made a decision to be as authentic as possible and it has been difficult to be this vulnerable but very necessary. I believe that we need to be honest with one another to move forward in our lives. Whether that honesty shows up with a smile, a bitter rant or an apology. Not saying that we should be mean but being honest won’t always be pretty and nice. 

I would be lying to you if I told you that I have always been surrounded by supportive females and people who genuinely wanted the best for me. It would be an even bigger lie if I told you that I haven’t fallen into the trap of female toxicity where (as a collective) women have been raised to compete with one another, be mean to each other and gossip about each other in front or behind our backs. 

Even though I have hurtful memories of many females doing this to me, I have also had my fair share of being unkind and mean to others. And, for that, I apologize. It is only until recently that I fully understood what it means to be a productive and healthy female representative in The World. 

Here are 3 things that I have learnt about female toxicity:

1. We have to change it. 

When I think of the word toxic, I often think of ingesting something into my body that is poisonous- forgetting about my mind and actions. Female toxicity may not be ingested but it is a culture we have developed where we put each other down and are too afraid to see another women shine. Examples of this are all around: Reality shows, family dynamics even school&work dynamics also. 

Like with anything else, it won’t change unless we do the work. I can tell you from experience that being a healthy and supportive woman is way better than being one who is manipulative, cunning and insecure. I have been one of those and have done (and am still doing) the work of finding out what it really means to be happy and healthy- it didn’t come from looking at others, being mean to others and judging others. It came from me looking at myself and admitting that I was not happy with how I behaved and contributed to The World. 

2. It’s toxic for a reason.

The term masculine toxicity has been thrown around a lot lately and, I believe, it to be overused. Although we are comfortable speaking about how men can be mean, intimidating and abuse their power, as women we are afraid to look at how we can also be the same way. 

The meanest things that have ever been done to me have been done so by a woman. I am not saying that all women are mean; however, we have developed a culture of bonding in negativity. I have had deep secrets told in High School, been called fat and, friends (until recently) constantly berate me for me being who I am. 

You might ask why I was so comfortable accepting this kind of behaviour? The plain and simple answer (if I had to only choose one) is that, as a whole, we do not have role models of women being kind to each other. I accepted that I might never have friends who were kind and loving. In the past few years, I have proven that to be untrue and will never accept mean and catty behaviour in my life moving forward. But, it has taught me that unless we change something, it can be so toxic that it embeds a culture at all levels in society. 

3. We will never be at our best if we are tearing one another down. 

In the past year, I made a decision to only have people in my life who support me and are kind to me. Yes, we will have our arguments but I would rather hear things said to me than find them out about me. As I have set clear boundaries for the kind of people that I want in my life, I have heard my supportive and loving friends tell me stories of how they trusted another female who backstabbed them and did something unmentionable to them too. 

The irony is that we are in the post- ‘me too’ era where we constantly speak about how men have stopped us from reaching our full potential. But, what about the females? Yes, some men have been mean and unkind to me but the amount of women who have portrayed similar actions probably doubles that. We need to look at how we are bonding with one another and ask ourselves if we should congregate over gossip and negativity, or out of love and support. 

Calling out our male counterparts is important, yes! But, true healing starts with us. We will never elevate the energetic female consciousness until we acknowledge how we have hurt other females and what actions we need to take moving forward to not do so in the future. 

*This is dedicated to any female who has gossiped about me, berated me and tried to tear me down. I know that you did it from a place of insecurity. As I have done with others. 

An Introduction to Angel Numbers.

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One of the big parts of alignment, in Spiritual terms, is seeing a synchronicity of numbers. Repeated formation of numbers like, 111, 222, 333... etc. Of course, these are not the only numbers that we see. However these are the most common. 

When one sees these numbers, they have different spiritual references. Essentially, they are messages from Angels to guide you to your most aligned and enlightened self. 

Here are a few examples and explanations of Angel numbers that you might be seeing:

111:

The number 1 signifies the beginning of something new. However, triple 1 signifies alignment. We see these numbers when we are most connected to Source and are able to visualize what we want and receive it. This is the number of manifestation. 

222: 

 2, specifically 22, is the highest vibrational number. You will most likely see this when you have been meditating a lot and your chakras are in alignment. It suggests that you have been doing the spiritual work and are on the right path. When you see this number, it generally means that you are headed in the right direction. 

333: 

Although many people have different versions of this. I conquer that this number is associated with something new coming into our lives to provide balance. 3 is the number of trinity, the perfect balance. When you see this number, pay attention to what has entered your life and how it is having an effect on your life- how it is providing you with balance. 

444: 

This has been the number that I have seen the most. It is a message from The Angels of letting go and trusting. When you see this number, you are being guided to trust that things will get better because The Angels know more about the situation than you do. So, surrender your worries to them and they will help you. 

555:

This trinity of numbers suggests that a big change is coming your way, it is usually associated with a spiritual transformation. For example, I saw this number before I met my twin flame. When you see this number, be prepared to be transformed and enlightened. 

1111: 

Similarly to 111, this number suggests that The Angels are telling you that you are highly aware and able to manifest. However, the added 1, is a number of high vibration. When you see this number, you are radiant and in the prime vibration for spiritual partnership, protection and manifestation. 

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Dear Body,

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Dear Body, 

Thank you for being there for me, particularly when I wasn’t there for you. We’ve come a long way together and after all this time, I am so grateful that you are healthy and that you forgave me for what I put you through before. 

It took me learning how I had been conditioned to look a certain way to break that chain and appreciate you. You stuck around, loving me unconditionally. 

I still have some thoughts of how you can be different but I check myself because I know your purpose. You keep me alive, strong and able to fulfill my purpose. So, I will do the same for you. 

Body, I promise to love you unconditionally. Especially when it is not easy to do so. When I’ve eaten almost a ton of pancakes, over-indulged on some wine and can’t get to a yoga studio or workout that day or the next, I will still love you because we are both doing our best and this journey of life. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. Virgo Full moon affirmation 2020

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I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He is in the form of someone who genuinely likes me. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He is not afraid to speak to me and let me in to his life. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He lets me in on what is going on his life, so that I don’t have to guess. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

We have created a bond based on honesty, kindness and respect. One that no one can come in-between. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

We support one another and choose peace and unity everyday. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect. 

He takes responsibility for what he needs to in our relationship. 

I have hope that I will find true love and respect.

There is no need to manipulate either of each other because what we have is authentic and meant to be.

3 Things that I wish I had known before I started BiologiqueLife.

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In 2017, after I had written for a popular online international blog platform, I decided to start my own. Even though I had published articles for this website, I didn’t feel like it represented me in an authentic way because some of the articles were so editted that sometimes it didn’t sound like my own voice. 

At one point, I was their most popular and hated author. At times I did take it too personally. I would cry when I read negative comment after comment that was about words that were not my own. To avoid feeling bitter and resentful, I decided to no longer write for them and start my own, that aligned with authenticity and spirituality. A platform where I am not out to make money only and in a quick way with shocking headlines but because people resonate with the stories. 

When I started BiologiqueLife, I had just gone through a personal difficulty and wanted to create a platform to heal myself and others. I don’t regret any of the outcome and am grateful that I learnt all of this. However, if I was told anything about the process of BiologiqueLife, I would want to know the following: 

1. Not everyday is a day for creativity. 

I am a natural creative: I love writing, drawing, singing, colours and designing. However, when it comes to structure, money and taxes, I am knowledgeable about it but find myself putting it off till later.

In the past few years, I have had to be honest about what my strengths are and use them to counteract my weaknesses. For example, I have taken business courses and asked friends to help me with fine details because I believe in the success of it. There have been days when I would rather sleep in than do calculations. So, I reward myself with a treat after I have completed something that I don’t like doing. Bringing balance to myself and BiologiqueLife. 

2. You will understand the true meaning of a hater, how will you respond? 

I used to be afraid to do well for fear of people thinking that I thought that I was better than them. Growing up, people would constantly tell me that I was full of myself because I was and am confident. Sometimes this confidence was put on but I am a firm-believer in putting your best self out there to represent yourself as such. 

When I started BiologiqueLife, I knew that there/are negative people in the world but I didn’t see the full capacity of what others might be capable of when they can’t handle your success. For the most part, people have been supportive and loving- which is who I write for. However, I have had the few that are clearly not supportive of what I have created. And, it is okay, they don’t have to be. When they behave that way, I have made a decision to accept it and understand that I have something to learn. Sometimes it is to have thicker skin, to learn more or to ignore anything that is attempting to bring me down. Haters will always be around, they do not deserve my time or energy. 

3. Consistency and devotion is key. 

People ask me, where do you find the time to write? And, honestly, I am not sure because in my head, I don’t have to find time- it is already there. I just have to use it. My life without writing is not living. We all have something that brings us life and reminds us why we need to share it with others; however, most of us don’t share it or are not consistent with it because we might be fearful, procrastinating or think that it is not worthy. 

There have been days when I have had to convince myself of why I started BiologiqueLife and write almost everyday because anything that requires consistency can be challenging. However, the outcome is more rewarding. Nothing that is worthy of achieving in life comes without effort, consistency and devotion- otherwise, everyone else would be doing it. 

Through serving others, devotion and giving up our Ego, we serve a bigger and higher purpose. We learn that growth and transformation requires digging deep within but, is possible if we do it with consistency.

Traits of the emotionally immature and mature zodiac sun signs.

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As I have touched on this before, every Zodiac sign has it’s emotional immature aspect and once they work on what they need to, they can emotionally evolve into their best selves. No person is immune to this. It is a part of the human experience to learn and grow, we only become stuck when we focus on blaming others and put responsibility on others to do the work for us. 

Astrology is a map that can guide us to what we need to work on within ourselves. If this doesn’t resonate, it is not for you. This article is for those that this aligns with because even though you might be one sun sign, you have other elements in your birth chart that can affect your emotions, communication, how you love, appear to the world and how you represent yourself at different phases in your life. 

Here are traits of the emotionally immature and mature sun signs of the zodiac:

•Immature Aries ♈️:

Needs to be number one, impatient and is obsessed with material worth and possessions.

Mature Aries: 

Natural leader, naturally encourages other people to thrive and do well. Focusing on what people can offer them that isn’t based on money.

•Immature Taurus ♉️:

Sees things in black&white, lacks compassion and stubborn. 

Mature Taurus: 

Patient, driven and mentally strong. 

•Immature Gemini ♊️:

Behaves like a teenager, impatient and emotionally inconsistent. 

Mature Gemini: 

Creative, great communicator and sees both sides of a situation with judgement. 

•Immature Cancer ♋️:

Thinks the world is out to get them, overly defensive and thinks in a linear fashion. 

Mature Cancer: 

Opens up to people, speaks from a place of boundaries; not vengeance and, doesn’t jump to conclusions. 

•Immature Leo ♌️:

Has difficulty processing emotions, needing to be the centre of attention and has difficulty being vulnerable. 

Mature Leo: 

Is vulnerable with their ‘weak’ emotions too, accepts that they don’t always have to strong and is compassionate to those who aren’t always at their peak. 

•Immature Virgo ♍️:

Only thinks about work, avoids human interaction and comes across passive aggressive. 

Mature Virgo: 

Deals with people in a humane, acknowledges that they are not always right and brings health to the mainstream. 

•Immature Libra ♎️ :

Irritable, indecisiveness and projects internal conflict onto others. 

Mature Libra: 

Balances their emotions out through meditation, has let go of the need to be right and listens to others. 

•Immature Scorpio ♏️:

Thrives on vengefulness, seeks out drama to prove dominance and highly obsessive. 

Mature Scorpio: 

Accesses and transforms their deep emotions to help others heal of suffering, let’s go of the need to get others back and doesn’t take things personally. 

•Immature Sagittarius ♐️:

Looks at life as a playground, lacks loyalty and compassion.

•Mature Sagittarius: 

Explores diversity, is consistent and understands that if they want consistency, they have to create it in their own lives first. 

•Immature Capricorn ♑️: 

Cold, social-climber and believes in hierarchy. 

Mature Capricorn: 

Practices humility by doing tedious things, enjoys daily activities and let’s go of the need to prove who they are through work. 

•Immature Aquarius ♒️:

Arrogant, bully and thinks that everyone else is lower than they are. 

Mature Aquarius: 

Shows their emotions, practices compassion and can self-reflect with acknowledgement that they made mistakes like everyone else. 

•Immature Pisces ♓️:

Takes everything personally, controls others by doing things for them and jaded from the past. 

Mature Pisces: 

Meditates on positivity, aligns themself with supportive people who want the best for them and turns pain into wisdom. 

3 Things that I learnt attending a British School as a South African girl.

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I have only made peace with one of the schools that I went to recently and, it has taken me many years to do so. I did have some great teachers, yes! But, it didn’t stop me from sometimes feeling like an outcast as a minority in my school- for most of my secondary schooling years. 

I went to a British School in South Africa for most of my schooling. And, although it provided me with a lot, I felt confined and as though I was never enough. A lot of it had to do with my heritage. Although I am of mixed heritage, some being British, I identify fully with being South African. The two cultures are very different- as variety of cultures are.

I spent a lot of time being angry at British culture and needing to fit into a particular academic bracket or ‘keep up with The Joneses’, so I ran away from this part of my life after I left High School for a long time. When I moved to America, people would confuse my accent for being British and (at first), I would get angry but now I don’t care. 

I have forgiven the negative side of history that Britain has largely contributed to. Which, to me was manifested in what I was taught at School and part of my ancestry. 

Here are 3 things that I learnt while attending, and since have left, The British School that I attended: 

1. To speak up. 

Coming from a politically active family, I was raised to speak up for injustice. A lot of which I would see at This School. We had a teacher who, I believed to be racist and when we would confront The Headmistress (Principal) about it, we were met with phrases like, ‘How do you know?’, ‘Study harder’ or, ‘Give her a reason to like you.’ Although I didn’t agree with what she said, there was nothing else that I could do but listen to her and hope that she was right. What if it worked? What if I could push down that intuitive feeling of being singled out because of my culture and race? 

Of course, no matter how much I tried, I was still met with the feeling that I wasn’t good enough and my intuition knew why. I learnt from this experience that I can only speak up and from a place of intuition and truth, everything else is up to the other person. 

2. Discrimination is real. 

Unfortunately most of us have been raised to be threatened by other people, cultures and races because we fear that they will steal from us. This fear-based thinking creates prejudice against women, people of different races and religions. The thing about discrimination is that it is stifling. For the discriminator, it leaves negativity and for the person who is being discriminated against, it leaves negativity with them too. 

One of my most painful memories of being discriminated against was when I 15 and had a huge crush on this boy from our brother school in Johannesburg . He will remain nameless but I was smitten by him. I felt like we had a vibe. We would talk almost everyday and one night, he tried to kiss me but (typical me) my head was in the clouds and I didn’t get what he was trying to do. 

The next week, I was in class and after class I mentioned how he had tried to kiss me. One of the girls that I trusted told me that she asked him about me and he said that he would only do physical things to me but would never date me because he is not inclined to date or be seen with a black girl.I felt the biggest punch in my heart and started to feel tears warm my eyes. After that, I promised not to date a man from South Africa again. I was burnt. 

It took me a long time to date anyone again because I felt like I couldn’t date anyone or fit in with any demographic because of how I was raised and being from a mixed heritage. It is only until recently that I have healed from situations like this because I have acknowledged that not everyone is racist and those who are, are conditioned that way because of who they are and what they choose to believe in; it has nothing to do with me. 

3. Share your stories with those who care ONLY. 

I have been through a lot and when I was younger,I would share my stories with everyone because I trusted everyone. Although I kept the stories of experiencing prejudice at schools silent for a long time, years after I started to tell them and noticed who responded in a kind and compassionate way. Some people would ask me to see the positive when I was merely speaking from a place of truth and it infuriated me. I learnt that there are some people who care about our truths and those who don’t care.

Not everyone will care, they don’t have to. However, I choose to surround myself with people who I share a story of how I feel with and allow me to embrace my vulnerable side. People who don’t blame me for my past but trust me to be okay once this situation has passed. People who allow me to be angry at the injustices in The World but support me in transforming that emotion into healing, art, writing and seeing the silver-lining in every situation. 

There is a stereotype of an angry black woman and I was so afraid to be that portrayal. I have released this image that has been pushed onto us and know in my heart that all people feel anger, it is okay. As long as we do something about what we are angry about. Emotions have a purpose and so do actions.

12 Things that I would rather be called other than mean.

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We all have faced some harshness and unkindness in our lives. I used to believe that this was normal so I was unkind and accepted behaviour in my life that was not positive, affirming and reassuring. 

Who knows why I used to settle for less than I deserved but I see it all around- people accepting unkindness and mean-spiritedness when we shouldn’t. About 4 years ago, I went through a culmination of different events that changed my perception of how I approach people and what I wanted to project to the world. Ever since then, I made a promise to myself to practice kindness as much as possible. I don’t always get it right but that doesn’t mean that I stop trying. 

Here are 12 things that I would rather be as opposed to mean: 

1. Kind.

2. Understanding.

3. Compassionate. 

4. Mature. 

5. Fulfilled. 

6. Loving. 

7. Happy. 

8. Joyful. 

9. Playful. 

10. Honest. 

11. Aligned. 

12. Purposeful.